AIBU? Should he have texted me tonight?

[GoGetGone]

Or am I being a dick? A simple yes or no will be fine.

My DP is out tonight for a few drinks with a friend. Rare occurrence, he maybe goes out once every three months, if that and only ever has a few pints. We don't live together but spend 4 or 5 evenings a week together.

So, he is out tonight and staying with his friend and friend's family so he doesn't have to drive the ten miles home. We message each other on and off all day and night usually [ when not together ] but tonight I haven't heard from him since about 7pm when he said he was leaving to drive over there and that he'd be over to mine tomorrow for dinner etc.

AIBU to kind of expect that he should have texted me? To just say hello, or goodnight or something? Or am I [ as i suspect ] being a twat?

Are you worried about his safety ie you haven't heard since he set off in the car to go there? Would he normally text to say "got here ok" ? If so, then if it was me I would have sent a "goodnight" text so a response would reassure he was fine and not in a ditch. Otherwise, leave the chap to it.

One text from you is not excessive. But it sounds like you are hanging on to see if he does, as a 'test'.

rolls eyes

It does sound a bit, I dunno, odd that on the one hand you say you trust him, and you call him your 'partner' ('DP'), yet you won't text him in case it looks bad.

If you saw him today and you're seeing him tomorrow I would think texting you in between would be a bit strange. Mind you, I don't get this texting through the day and half the night stuff, tbh.

If that's what you do, that's what you do. But it all looks a bit game-playing and early days if you feel embarrassed to contact him in case it is misconstrued. One text wouldn't look needy if you are genuinely partners. Although I can see why you'd be mildly disappointed he hadn't texted you, it isn't exactly a sacking offence.

I would say YABU but in all honesty, I would expect a text to say goodnight too. Secretly. I wouldn't bring it up because it would make me sound like a nutter.

He's been spoiling you with all his regular texts that you can't get through an evening without one!

He sounds v sweet!

Ok so I'm an idiot - he just texted to say he missed me and hasn't been able to get a signal until getting back to his friends house despite trying all night

Glad he's safe and all is ok.

Ah that's good OP!

Bit of everyone saying no no don't text him. You've said you always both text!

My DP and I always send a "having a good night?" Kind of text when we are out without each other. I didn't and still don't think it's odd.