If I ask you to humor me and engage in a moment of possible woo?

[NeverWinsMNComps]

I joined MN a few years ago, around the time of the accidental-swimming-pool-undressing (your Minge!) and the shat-upon-pouffe, if I remember correctly. (Pouffe as in footstool, before anybody gets upset) I've namechanged for this as I'm a little too identifiable under my usual nickname. What follows is a bit of a "thought experiment"

Lately (The last year or so) things have not been good. My marriage is rocky. I don't have any family near me and don't get much time to see friends. We're skint. We both work, but by the time I've paid for childcare and petrol I actually struggle to afford food. (It's not helped by the fact that I've had a client skip out on a big bill and another caught up in a year-long bureaucratic snafu delaying payment) I suffer with long-term depression and sometimes can't afford AD's, which leaves me sobbing and contemplating suicide. The worst part is the gut-wrenching feeling when I check my bank balance or go to use my debit card, never sure whether there will be enough to cover basic needs. There's always the hope that one of my outstanding accounts will have paid up, and when I see that they haven't... the disappointment and stress just re-ignites itself every time.

My point is, I've been knee deep in shit and I really need some kind of "win" in my life (not necessarily of the MN comp variety, nickname notwithstanding). Call it karma or good luck or cosmic ordering or an actual honest-to-goodness Christmas Miracle, if you like. I know there are people worse off than me and I'm sure there are people more deserving of sympathy.

But if you've managed to read this far, what I'm asking is for you to take a moment and send me good will. Say a prayer, think positive thoughts, send good vibes, cast a spell, light a candle, summon positive energy, or wave some flaming sage about the place with wild abandon... and then point some in my general direction. I know it's the most apalling pile of superstitious woo, and quite unmumsnetty to boot. But I've got nothing to lose and you never know--maybe it will work. (At the very least, it will make me feel better if I think some total strangers give a monkeys!)

Thanks for reading.

Can I offer you some business advice? There are some ways that can help get your debtors to pay on time, let me know if that would be something that might help you...

I have some only slightly wilted sage leftover from the Christmas sprouts and am happy to set it alight if it will help

Sorry things have been so shitty OP. Please please prioritise your meds though as everything else will be so much harder to manage if you are depressed.

Hoping things get better soon - I've been in the shit in the not too distant past and am in the beautiful light that lies at the end of the tunnel now. I hope things look up for you soon. I am a believer in karma and positive energy - take the time to be good to people they will (mostly) be good back.

I do wonder if some support in budgeting and getting your debtors to pay would be more useful?

Take care of yourself x

Lots of love and positive energy coming from me OP. All the beat for 2013 I hope things are easier for you soon xxx

Well, it could be my karma ran over my dogma

But really, you need to get on your clients case to pay you your money!

and ask your Angels to help out. AA Michael will! Just ask!

Sending positive thoughts >> NeverWinsMNComps.

I'm on your side. Had the iffy marriage, sad face in empty fridge in my life, so anything I can do to help out another. I'm on it.

Best wishes op xxxx

positive thoughts sent.

Wishing you the best for 2013 OP! I don't really go in for woo but making an exception ;)

I love that merrychristmoose has a bundle of burning smudge "to hand'

I just said a prayer for you op :)

Can we just clarify that is eleven am gmt? As I'm in a different time zone.
I am sending you lots of positive vibey things but at six am tomorrow I shall probably be sleeping

Sending good vibes and lots of woo. I'm big on woo.

Not having invoices paid is a bugger for giving you a powerless feeling and controlling your life, it happened to me this year too!

I will be sending you positive energy and thoughts now and at 11. Hope they all help!

Here's to 2013 OP, total stranger sending positive thoughts your way xx

I will send positive thoughts! And I don't usually do woo, so to speak. Sorry things are so shit just now. You sound ace.

Hang on! Hang on! The OP said she joined around the time of 'your minge!' she didn't say she was the owner of said minge!

Just wanted to clear that up in case the actual owner of the minge has everyone thinking this is her. Maybe it is, but not necessarily!

Anyway, however you are, bare minge or not, I am sending you good vibes, and wishing you a lucky break in this tough old world for 2013.

whoever, not however.

I've just said a prayer of sorts. Not to God, but just to the universe. Wow. That felt nice. Haven't done that in a long time.

I'm going to so it again, for anyone on MN else who is in the same position.

NeverWinsMNComps, :) I will do all of these Say a prayer, think positive thoughts, send good vibes, ..., light a candle, summon positive energy, ... and then point them in your direction.

Things will get better be strong now!

Sounds like life is overwhelming OP. Sending you happy thoughts for an upturn in 2013 and if you want to PM me your address I will send you a book that really helped me when I felt along the same lines. Some people would call it woo but it really helped me.

Ahh, yes. Just to clarify, it wasn't my my minge on display at the swimming pool. I think I remember whose it was, though...

DH and I have pretty well split the bills according to our income, so he gets mortgage, utilities and insurance and I get food, council tax, pets & childcare. No flatscreen goats or anything like that. We both have a long commute (nothing but farms out where we live) so petrol & car costs are high for both of us. The problem is the usual one for people who work with small kids--the more I work, the more childcare costs and the more fuel I use getting there. We have another year and a half before DD2 starts school, when we can start to breathe a little easier. I work at weekends to cut the childcare costs, but DH isn't thrilled about it.

One of my biggest creditors is a local authority. Their payment has been caught up in miscommunications between departments, red tape, procedures and snafus. It's just another invoice to them and they're used to dealing with large organizations who can just absorb costs until they're paid. Another douchebag just disappeared into the ether when it came time to pay. I could try to track them down and take them to court, but the time and fees would pretty much eliminate any benefit from doing it. But it's incredibly frustrating to work and not be paid for it!

I know it's bad to not keep up with AD's, but it really is that tight. Or I'll have the money set aside and then DD puts a hole in her school shoes so I have to wait a week before I can refill the prescription...

Sending positive vibes your way OP.

Good vibes to you OP! Sorry you are having such a hard time - things will pick up. Here's to a lovely 2013 and to a nice big fat payment of your invoice,

Ps that is special woo wine btw ...

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. Am not really woo but i hope things improve for you soon.

Just a thought - is it worth looking into small claims court for your outstanding payments ?