Can I ask where you get your kicks/thrills/that sort of thing?

[MyDirtyHarry]

I am trying and so far succeeding in being a responsible adult... am late 20s with a 2yr old DD and a nice DP, and whilst I had a lot of fun in my younger days I am recently missing it and don't know how to ignore it or what to replace it with.
I used to really enjoying going out and having lots of sex with lovely men, illlicit relationships, smoking, drinking etc. In my current relationship I have been monogamous, I have a proper job, am nearly a qualified accountant, no smoking, minimal drinking... but gosh... what I really want right now is to have that affair at work or go and meet some random man for sex. But of course I won't. Can I ask does anyone identify with this? If so do you just switch that part of yourself off or do you replace it with something else??

Either you'll look like a tit or someone will look at your tit. Worth a try though.
If you're not married an affair doesn't count, or does it?

Sat on the back of over half a tonne of muscle and madness at full gallop is where I get mine.

Much more thrilling than any man

I hear you OP! Love my DH and my 18mth old DS. But still remember those heady days of doing whatever (and whoever) I wanted when I wanted to.

I'm now 33 and am on the whole satisfied with my lot, but there is the occasional itch that I would like to scratch. I try and find things to challenge me, running, gym. If that doesn't work, lots of chocolate and Kresley Cole helps me.

fakebook, I feel the same way as the OP at times but that doesn't mean I'm immature or that there is something seriously wrong with my life. I think we all yearn for a bit of excitement in our lives, it just depends what does it for you - as the OP has asked, what do you do for kicks?

If you are lucky enough to be so totally contented with your lot, then good for you.

Try activism or feminism. Take all that energy and put it where it can do some good.

There's a difference between wanting to take up a hobby for kicks and taking up a hobby for avoiding/taking place of affairs and such. I get the impression OP wants to take up a hobby so she can avoid having sex with strange men or having an affair. I find this really strange behaviour and anyone in a strong, loving relationship wouldn't ever think like this, unless (I'll say it again) something was very wrong.

muffin. Me too !

Jumping cross country is quite enough adrenalin for me these days , although I don't ride the utter maniacs I once used to , when young and childless fearless.

I totally know where you are coming from OP but don't have the answers....

I know where your coming from too mid twenties married two dc's. This year I'm going to a festival a drunken holiday with DH and eight other friends. Hitting the gym hard in Jan.

Having a little flirt here and there ;)

lol at people suggesting divorce etc!

you can still go out and have fun! i'm i my 40s and still feel the same as you op but realise i have to grow up at some point

I'm kind of with Fakebook on this.

Nothing wrong with wanting fun but the way you've described it, it seems like something more than fun.

Could you perhaps take up a new exciting hobby with your DP? Push your limits together in something non sexual and see if that leads to new horizons in your personal life?

DP and I are taking up a new martial art together soon. We've both done different styles separately but I am so excited to start afresh with him. Perhaps something like that?

swinging! it is great, DH and I love it.

I flirt all the time at work, I also go out with the girls. But I hate to get randomly chatted up by drunken lecherous old men who think they can pull a 30yo when they are50! I prefer the safety of being in a relationship and the safety of flirting I don't want to start dating again or actually have sex with another man. I know how you feel op and if the kids are young you'll begin to feel more yourself in a few years, I know I did

Activism and hobby with DP are two things that hadn't occurred to me, thank you. Scared of horses :(
I'm glad some people get where I'm coming from, I thought I'd get a much harder time!

You are so young! You won't find it with other men, sex etc. Get running, or triathloning or something.

Other men are much like the one you have and it will just lead to misery if you chop and change.

I'm mid forties - but that's my experience.

Orr - what about ballroom dance or ceroc or summit? Thrills and all that without the baggage?

Plomio - Young and fearless is right, I didn't have an ounce of fear 15 years ago! My current horse is a bit of a shit to jump in competition - he'll either clear 4' with ease or refuse to do anything, so I mostly altenate hunting and dessage at the moment. I do have a 2 year old who's a completely different character, very friendly and willing, so am hoping to end up doing M&M WHP

That said, I do not recommend horses as a hobby/distraction/lifestyle, far to damned expensive.

Risk taking behaviour belongs to teens I'm afraid. They are biologically programmed to behave that way so that they meet new people and diversify the genes.
You are no longer a teen. You now need to adjust to a new phase of your life. The thrills you will now get come from watching your kids take their first steps etc.
Make sure you keep friendships going so you get some nights out but move on cos you can't have your cake and eat it I'm afraid.

Lots of people who are not teens enjoy risky sports

Is it a sex with other people thing or a general fun thing?

Dh and I are going clubbing this nye, the children are going to gp's and we're going to party like its 1996

But that's something I want to do with him and he with me

knitting. honestly! i'm embracing my middle age. yesterday i had sherry whilst knitting.

something about it - the horrified looks you get when you tell people, the act of creating something when i'm a left brained person (i'm an accountant too), and the technical side of how to do it too. It feels subversive somehow. There are also meet ups in pubs for young people doing this, where everyone ogles each others bamboo needles or fancy patterned lace knitting, or gorgeous wool. Its the new swinging, and you can't catch STDs doing it.

Warning - you might end up with a huge overdraft though.

Try swinging, talk to ur partner. You will be very surprised how many couples do it and they are so in love. Some people will not agree but it's worth looking into ;)

Have you tried doing that thing where you and your partner go out separately, and then pretend to meet each other for the first time in a bar and have a fake ONS.

I quite fancy doing that with DP at some point in the future. Sadly right now, our idea of a thrilling night is more than three hours sleep in a row.....

I feel similar to you OP. After 2 babies and currently being a SAHM I feel like my life is completely on hold. I just want to get out in the world, get back into work, meet people and form friendships, flirt a little and have a life where I'm not just "so and so's Mum".

Have you considered returning to education? I'm off to uni next year and can't bloody wait!!! Not only because I love y chosen subject, but also will get to interact with other humans outside family!!!