To wish DP hadn't gone out even though he'll only be an hour?

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I feel like shit - think I've come down with tonsillitis. DP's gone to the pub for an hour for a drink leaving me on my own with 7mo DD (who has thankfully stayed asleep the whole time so far as I feel weak as a kitten and am scared to attempt to carry her if necessary).

Since the start of last week, DP has so far done the following:

• Looked after me when I had a stomach bug/food poisoning last week.
• Done his Xmas shopping with bonkers 6yo DSS2 in tow (medal deserved for anyone who takes that task on) as he wasn't able to do it before school broke up due to work & arranging emergency dental appointment for DSS1,
• Dealt with DSS2 being ill (including one night when he threw up in bed at midnight due to so much coughing),
• Done all the cooking between Xmas Eve & yesterday, including Xmas Day & for a party on Boxing Day,
• Looking after his DM who's been visiting over Xmas when she became ill on Boxing Day (including her being sick due to stomach bug - luckily she managed to grab an empty gift bag which was close to hand),
• Looked after DD a few times over the past few days since I've been starting to feel rough (DD has been really attached to me & we've had issues with DP dealing with her when she cries due to him having PTSD, but both have thankfully improved a lot recently).

We're having a takeaway tonight when he gets back as he's sick of cooking (I don't blame him). I'm just feeling sorry for myself and I know IABVU - he deserves a knighthood break after the week he's had running around after everyone.

You're right

You're being very unreasonable

Yabu. It's one hour. Be thankful your not a singe parent.

I don't think you're bVu. You're probably BateenybitU. But sod it, poor you, you've had more than your share of horribleness recently, and you deserve LOADS of sympathy!

Yes YABU he sounds like a saint bless him. but I can feel your pain. It's horrible feeling poorly. Snuggle on the sofa with an ice pop to soothe your throat till he gets home. Then enjoy your night off together.

you feel rough so you are allowed to be a little bit U, however if you stopped him going you would be very U, have a cuppa and it will soon have passed, look after yourself and you can pamper him when you feel better.

I think this is less of an AIBU (which if it was serious you clearly are being) and more of a stealth boast about what an amazing husband you have!

YAB a bit U. My DH has gone out drinking with his mates Prob won't be back until after midnight. Luckily kids are both asleep (Hope it stays that way).

that you have a man that does all the cooking.

Not that you have had so many bugs at xmas

Hope you all feel better soon

I know IABU. His DSs are back tomorrow after going away with their mother on Boxing Day (he's been missing them, especially as DSS2 was still poorly and was really upset because he didn't want to go) and his DM stayed an extra 2 days because she was poorly (was due to travel home on Thursday). Tonight's our only night on our own.

He did make sure I had a drink & a bowl of ice cream before going out as well. I

Well I think YANBU, because in your circumstances I would wish he hadn't gone out either. If you had said you were stropping because he'd gone out, I would say YABU though, because he obviously has been brilliant lately.

Poor you though, sounds like you've all had a pretty rough time lately.

You know you're being unreasonable but bless, I've had tonsillitis before and it's fecking horrendous. I hope you enjoy your takeaway and feel better soon OP

DP's ex walked out on him & their DSs 2 years before we got together - if he couldn't cook, they would have starved!!

He has been an absolute saint (even though last night he was grumpy & said there was no way he was going to cook tonight, so his DM gave us money to pay for our takeaway tonight).

I suppose this is probably a stealth boast even though I didn't mean it to be

I know I shouldn't be surprised to hear that your DP does what millions of women have to do everyday and that he has brought his sons up on his own for 2 years too (as indeed many women have to do) but it is heartwarming to hear it when I've read so many threads recently about men "napping" and generally not pulling their weight.... and much worse...

Well you know yabu but as you feel like crap it's understandable that you would have liked him to stay in.