So my DH thinks telling his family OVER LUNCH that we get worms every 2 weeks is ok...

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... and Im dramatic for telling him (albeit in a half laughing half horrified way) that I cant believe he said that!

My lovely son gave me worms recently. I treated the whole family, bleached and boiled the house yada yada.

A month old, his brother, his wife (who's never had children), his other brother (no kids) and his mum take us out to lunch today.

Lovely, it was except I hear DH suddenly say (about kids being messy) "Thats why we have worms every 2 weeks"

First off, we've had them ONCE.

Second of all, SIL hasnt has kids, I dread to think what she thinks of us.

He said 'its my mum, she had 3 kids weALL had worms!'

I said 'I dont care about your mum' yes I fucking do 'but your brother and SIL have never had kids,THEY wont under stand!'

His reply?

'OH dont be so dramatic!'

I said every other Mum would agree with me.

AIBU or is he?

*a month later

Now hes had a MASSIVE go at me.

Nice.

YANBU. I would be so pissed off he said that. Not a lunchtime conversation is it?

What's he having a go at you for?

Definitely not lunch time conversation and definitely not something to go blabbing about but it's not such a big deal, is it? Everyone gets worms some time or other. Not really such a biggie!

Omg no I would not be happy with this. It's private, and aside from the fact that he wasn't even truthful, it's not something that needs to be shared.

What was he thinking, YANBU, kill him!!!

Yes exactly Tidy. DH and I don't share anything medical with anyone and are very private, so I would be really angry.

No its not a biggie- generally. But in the pub, over lunch, out the blue. Whats the point?

gross to talk about buttworms at the table but do not worry too much, everyone knows that little kids get them, surely?

Everyone who has kids. Yes.

But they dont.

I would have been very embarassed too, well done on not stuffing a family pack of Ovex up his arse.

I don't have children yet but being childless doesn't make an individual a complete imbecile you know :) we do know kids get worms/headlice/other livestock from time to time, it isn't a big deal!

how embarrassing for you it must have been - do you think he was using this to diss your housework in general? is it typical?

Porridge, no of course not!!

Except I was horrified when it happened. Turns out, its pretty normal. I had no idea and I had kids.

So he exaggerated to try and play the comedy genius and is now embarrassed you pointed it out and he realised he made himself look the twat. YANBU.

Before I had children as far as I was concerned only animals got parasites because we have a little thing called hygeine. I would have been horrified at the thought of two adults I was eating with having (possibly), and then discussing, their intestinal worms.

Now I get it and dgaf, it doesn't bother me in the least and I wouldn't bat an eye - it's no different to nits. Now I've had children and live rurally. If I was still in the position of not doing those things it would proably have put my off my food - as I couldn't help but think about the bum/egg aspect of it and would have squeamed.

He needs to give you an apology for 'having a go though' regardless of general concensus. Twit.

No not a dis on housework Im very anal about cleanliness, ironically. And this is very out of character!!

Oh god I'd have been mortified. Whyyyy would you share something like that? And over lunch?!

I am obviously FAR too relaxed about livestock (or more likely my family were just gross )

I do understand why you felt embarrassed though, OP - I'm not disagreeing with any part of what you did/said and don't think you were unreasonable.

i would be cross if i were you.

but seriously (not judging or anything, genuinely curious) is it that common? i've never had them, neither has dp or any of my friends growing up. Mum and dad never had them etc. is it a rural thing? i was at uni with a girl who grew up on a farm and she said once 'it's like when you get scabies..' i was 'what do you mean when you get scabies'

I wont show him this thread. He's angry because he knows he was wrong. DH is never angry. Im always angry, tonight Im not because I know im right.

Absolutely nothing to do with being childless. No DC here but a dog owner/animal lover so endless conversations about poo, worms and various other delightful subjects, but most emphatically NOT while out with family at lunch in pub. That's just ill mannered and rude.

Spuddy we've had them only once!

never had scabies or headlice but i do remember getting worms a few times.