To have called csa

[Emmielu]

When I know ex is in debt with other companies and has just got married? I feel bad that I called CSA because he slipped up and told me he now lives in a house and pays bills but has no money to pay for dd because I'm the wicked witch of the west now who's about make his month come crashing down. But then the other side of me says well he's been claiming benefits for 2 months already without letting CSA know. So if I'm holding Info that's wrong of me not to tell the correct person isn't it?

The csa is there to chase nrp's who will not pay if they are not chased.

Yanbu to use it for its intended purpose. But if he's on benefits you will only get a maximum of £5 a week. So don't be surprised by that.

Don't know the background to this... sometimes it helps to maintain a bit of give and take, after all ... but, if he's been trying to get out of supporting his child and it's not the first time he's done it, then I'd say you've done the right thing.

It's been 5 years and I've not asked for a penny off him because I felt sorry for him not having the money but over the years and past the arguments, I've realised its been a lot of lies and that the tables turn when I catch him out on a lie. I'm the bad person who doesn't think of our dd. I know it'll be £5 a week but that can easily go towards dds birthday.

You should have contacted them at the beginning

Con-artists like your ex often like to play the 'poor me' sob story if it gets them out of putting their hand in their pocket. :) Hindsight is always 20/20 and you can't change the past but you definitely did the right thing getting in touch with CSA now you know the truth. It may be £5 but it's the principle.

Took me 2 years to get money out of my ex, best thing i ever did was call CSA, now he has to pay.

Oh was he mad, but then he realised little miss pushover, grew a back bone.

My sister only get a £5 a week for a 14 year old boy, because her DS dad, doesnt declare his income, her day will come, but DN's dad objected to paying that.

Deadbeat Dads should pay, so YANBU for calling CSA, if he has money worries than its tough shit.

Regardless of your income you have to support your DC and every parent should be supporting there children.

Mrs -I'm the same. Used to be scared of him but now I'm not. He hates it. No more control.