to find it weird when people tell me they are ttc?

[ArielInTheBath]

A friends sister got married early December. Met up with friend for a coffee this morning and she tells me very matter of fact that "Sister told me that they are going to start trying for a baby in March"

Another friend told me that shes having her coil out in November and then they are going to start ttc.

Now I am very happy for them of course and I'm not a prude and maybe it is partly excitement talking but surely this is information you should keep between you and your partner??

Anything could happen, circumstances might change, you could have problems with ttc, you're adding more pressure by telling everyone.

I totally did that. Lol

we tried for a baby last June because I wanted to be on mat leave for the Olympics lol.

worked out perfectly. any issue you have Is yours.

if people are discussing children, I would say ' we are going to start trying in xxx'. it's not a shady secret :/ what does it matter

Kayano, doing it is fine; it's smugly telling everyone that it's what you're going to do that is my issue as the reality is that (sadly) that's not how it works out for a lot of people. But it worked for you and as you say "any issue I have is mine".

The black swan I didn't mean it like that. Just that me and my mum have a fantastic relationship (she was 21) when she had me and I see people with parentswwho had them at 30 and they are not close at all.

I ideally wanna be in my early 40s by the time my children are adults.

But I can't have kids anyway without ivf so it's a mute point.

I've always kept it to myself, but think little of it if somebody mentions that they are ttc.

I wouldn't ask, however.

ooops I did this today...

I saw a friend that I have known since I was two - we live at different sides of the country now but still try and meet up at least 3 times a year, are in regular email contact etc.

Had a coffee hot chocolate with marshmallows and cream as I am really still a small child to catch up and during that the conversation of children came up and I told her that me and DP are going to be ttc in the new year. She was thrilled, I was glad to have been able to discuss it in person with her (haven't told anyone else yet even my parents!) rather than hopefully just announcing to her sometime next year that i'm up the duff via text message.

Time/ place and person are all important I think. Its not like i'm discussing it with all and sundry. Nearly had a heart attach at the thread title thinking that she was you!

Only one set of friends have ever made a big announcement that they were ttc. It felt like they were telling us that they were having lots of sex.

It's not like every time we met we would ask if they were pregnant yet

I'd chat about it with friends, but making a big announcement was odd

I'd just like to know once the deed is done

I told a handful of people that I knew would be there for me if it didn't go well and be excited for me if it did. This time we are keeping it a secret purely because I refuse to believe we can be lucky twice and I fear it would be tempting date even further. I have a few friends that are trying, and a few I suspect are trying, I'm not arsed if they tell me or they don't.

*fate