to think SIL is being selfish??

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We visited Oh's family this morning and announced that I was 14pg. Everyone really happy and excited for us.

Sil and mil go into the kitchen to make some tea and I overhear them talking about the pregnancy and sil say "I can't believe it, this is suppose to be my year."

... She is getting married next year (baby is due before the wedding).

Now there has been non-stop talk about the wedding for a long time and I suppose she feels like I've stolen some of the limelight.

Ok so when it was my wedding yes I wanted the day to be about me and possibly OH but the whole year?? Erm ... no.

She is being an immature bitch. Unfortunately some people are like that. Ignore.

Ignore her. Congratulations

She is BU. But.... it's early days, she's just found out and is being emotional. Hopefully she'll come to terms with it soon and be delighted for you. Congratulations.

Just pretend you didn't hear. She was just probably venting to her mum in the heat of the moment.

Congratulations!

She's talking like a twat!, why should it be 'her year' just because she is getting married?.

She's not the only person in the family with a happy event to look forward to so I agree ignore her, she's obviously jealous of you.

YANBU. How self-centred. She may have felt this but he should have kept it to herself. Hope it was just an initial selfish response which she will reconsider in the light of day.

She is being daft butt she was possibly just venting to her mum quietly in the kitchen. How was she with you after that?

i think people get way too over-excited about weddings - its ONE day fgs - yes she is being ridiculous

You are not being unreasonable. It sounds like your sil was acting like a spoilt brat. My sil fell pregnant leading up to our wedding & it was lovely that my new nephew was there, gave me a horseshoe & got to meet all his new family in one day. Congratulations on your lovely news. Will be lovely for you taking your baby to the wedding

I don't think I'll ever understand the fuss people make of weddings. your SIL thinks no one can do anything to progress their lives in the year she gets married? bizarre. a wedding is a celebration of love, I can't stand it when people think everyone else should put their lives on hold.

and congratulations

Silly girl
Congrats

Ignore her she's being very daft, congrats don't let it get you down

I reckon all these things -esp bridezilla behaviour - say so much about parenting.

Is SIL especially spoilt, or is your DH golden boy?

Think about it in context. and maybe gush a bit when required about her wedding.

Congratulations,

Maybe they can only handle one exciting thing a year.

Personally I find babies amazing and wedding boring, maybe your SiL feels the same and is worried,

Just ask her a zillion questions about her plans for the day and honey moon and she will feel as if the wedding is interesting, just smile, nod and say lovely a lot, and she will get over it.

It depends on how her mum handles it.

She has every right to talk through how she feels with her mum.

To me, my DD's weddings will be a big deal and if no birth announcements are made, they will be the main event in that year.

I am about to be a step nan, my eldest DD is ttc, there will be a difference, tbh, but i only have DD's, so cannot comment on how i would feel over a DS's wife's prenancy as opposed to a DD's.

There has been a cutting off of the father and that side of the family, in my own family, though.

What n idiot, the whole world doesn't revolve around one wedding for a whole year.

I have never understood all the fuss about weddings and brides, very bizarre behaviour.

She has every right to talk to her Mum though, and at least she was expressing her thoughts quietly rather than having a public strop.

She will probably be fine about it in a couple of days, it is just her initial reaction and you weren't meant to hear it.

She was having a chat with MIL about her feelings?

Not flouncing from the room saying you'd ruined her wedding and by the way it's going to be child-free now? Hopefully MIL will say, your wedding will still be fabulous darling and how lovely that you will have a baby niece or nephew at it to look cute in the pictures.

She's probably feeling a touch miffed, but if you get hufty about something that wasn't meant for your ears, you're being as daft as she is.

The plus side is that she waited until she had (what she thought) a private moment with her mum.

If we cannot say things privately to our mums, who can we vent our feelings to? (in a family that works as it should).

She could have waited though, until she and her mum were totally alone. It's putting a bit of a damper on what is a special moment for her mum too, so I think it's still a bit tactless. I bet she has thought better of it now which means she could have just kept her peace.

I agree with Alibaba it was probably a kneejerk reaction that she will be mortified by in the cold light of day. Ignore the comment.

but if you get hufty about something that wasn't meant for your ears, you're being as daft as she is.

That's quite a silly thing to say.

What if you overheard me saying to someone else Meryl is a stupid bint.

You aren't allowed to get huffy because that wasn't meant for your ears?

No, you shouldn't get huffy about a conversation between close family members, conducted in private, such as mum and daughter, if one is talking about how she feels, rather than a personal attack.

my sister announced her pregnancy a month before my wedding. i would be lying if I said I didn't have a pang of 'stolen thunder' jealousy. She also announced her second pregnancy a month before my first was due. I had the same 'stolen thunder' feeling. Didn't stop me being really pleased though and I got over it very quickly!

I don't think there is anything wrong with her feeling it and mentioning it to her mum. I just wouldn't assume this means she is an awful bitch and she wil be festering a resentment against you.