A lie in....trivial.....but birthday related

[stuffthenonsense]

Tomorrow is my birthday. It's a significant one. I have just been asked what time I would like breakfast. My reply was that 'well, given I am awake by five every single morning, I am hoping for a lie-in'. (Five DCs, youngest is bf/cosleeping, it works for us). His response was that I could have til 6 as its still a lie-in. Technically he is correct but am I unreasonable to think that I should have until 7am. (We are going out at 8.30).

My god is he always this selfish? Why ate you allowing him to.dictate to you like this? Get up when you feel like it. Do you split lie ins at weekend?

Your birthday, your choice on time of breakfast.

He sounds like a selfish arsehole. Get up when you are ready.

But an extra hour is a lie-in surely?

Is he concerned about having to get himself and the 5 children ready himself, and thinking you'll just saunter up and see to yourself before you need to go out? Rather than assuming he's trying to be a controlling dick, why not ask him his reasons for wanting you up earlier?

You should have until at least 7.45 and then at least 45 minutes to yourself to get ready to go out.

Gavel

But kinky why shouldn't she just see to herself for once? It's her birthday. It sounds like she sees to the kids herself a lot - why shouldn't he? 6am is definitely not a lie in, regardless of your normal time of rising.

"Is he concerned about having to get himself and the 5 children ready himself, and thinking you'll just saunter up and see to yourself before you need to go out?"

You mean like he probably does every other morning of the year?

IM SURE HER HUSBAND CAN SORT OUT THE CHILDREN for an hour or 2 up at 6 he isn't joking is he it is really regimented, id lie there all morning and not move,

I can't get an answer from him as to why but he reckons it is a lie in. I'm not the type to just get up and leave him to it, which is one of my biggest flaws. He CAN do it, he's done it before, but not often. But I get annoyed at his seeming inability to look after children AND do other things...such as load the dishwasher.
He is taking me out later for a lovely family meal and in that sense and all things financial, is not at all selfish, but yes, I am afraid he is generally a doesn't lift a finger type

I am afraid he is generally a doesn't lift a finger type

or you dont let him help out stay in your bed till 7 and get up and go out ,

@ mrsjay "...and not move." I can imagine you lying there with your eyes tightly closed.

OP, what kind of lie-ins does he have? Could you say, "I'll do the same as you..?"

There was nothing in the OP to suggest that the husband doesn't usually do his bit. You imagined there was because that's what you wanted to believe.

If the husband had a genuine reason for wanting her up by a specific time, then I think it would have been worth listening to.

But... since he doesn't seem to have a reason other than because he thinks you ought to be up by 6, fuck him.... enjoy your lie in

Kinky, she added to her opening OP a few minutes ago. He's useless!

OP, if you were to get up at 5 as usual, would he stay in bed? Also if he got up at 5 tomorrow and you got up at 6, would he go back to bed for an hour?

and not move." I can imagine you lying there with your eyes tightly closed.

I used to do it on mothers day

You have all bloody morning to do with as you please, including breakfast in bed, a long hot bath and shower and an array presents and cards laid out for your perusal.

At the very least!!

Happy birthday too

Oh he wouldn't go back to bed.... He would be up too, but he just cannot see what needs doing! He would say he was helping because he was sitting on the floor with the children, or would eventually notice me bring busy and say 'ill do that' just as I'm about to finish.

I need to be the naggy type around him but he's pretty thick skinned. Doesn't get hints. Unless I write down exactly what I want eg. Take the Christmas rubbish to the tip....he doesn't see it! I once told him to clean the loo, he hired a cleaner....which is fantastic, very much appreciated, but with five children once a week cleaning isn't enough, don't get me wrong it's a blessing, but he just doesn't see beyond what he can get others to do.
I am guilty of being a happy-to-be-at-home type...love cooking etc. but there are times when help is needed, like when there are lifts needed for older kids and the two year old is wanting a story and the baby needs milk, like everyone else, I just get on and do it, because it needs doing. But as someone said above...on a practical level he is useless.
He has good points, he is great with playing with the children, very patient, helps at bath time and if I give him a kick during a night feed he will make me a cuppa or toast or whatever without complaint. It's not really an LTB situation, if only I could fix his 'me man, me boss' attitude.

Hey stuff it's my birthday tomorrow as well . I get a lie-in til about 8 usually but that's because by then the kids are gagging to open my presents! But I'm telling you know, your birthday, your rules- its bad enough having a birthday just after Christmas without having to get up at 6 and it be called a lie-in!!!
Happy Birthday for tomorrow!