No rsvps do I cancel party?

[monkeynuts123]

I have booked and paid for DDs party at a play/make things place, I have invited her friends from childcare and so far not a single response. I have a dilemma, do I extend the invite to all the kids in her group in a bid to get some replies and a party or do I just cancel the whole thing? She is only 3 so would be none the wiser about any of it and I have a nice family thing planned for her too anyway. I don't have the parents phone numbers or know them to catch them at the gate. I don't particularly care if I lose the money from the booking and would rather that than we turn up with party bags and expectations only to find a totally empty party. As a side note I cannot believe people don't rsvp! I asked for replies by email, so easy. So it's more of a wwyd?

Cancel. If anyone turns up on the day to find no party, that will serve them right. Rude bastards.

The time for panicking and moaning about rudeness is the day before the party IMO. Not 9 days before it! It's Christmas people have other things to do...

Best bet is a quick text reminder, a nice one, mentioning party bags and venue booking rather than asking for a reply. Fwiw I usually RSVP in person, so if I haven't seen you then I wouldn't have told you but I would text a couple of days before

Also if you gave invites out via nursery bags they may still be in there among a pile of unopened Christmas cards!

Thank you for replies folks, I'll remind and give a date and cancel if not enough responses by then. I never imagined people wouldn't rsvp, that is quite an eye opener and I think unbelievably rude to then turn up not having confirmed, think it's ok to not rsvp if you're not coming but to not rsvp and then turn up is crap imo. Hollasanta those are my sentiments exactly but I'm giving a few more days to reply/find card in bag etc. I think next time we'll stick with something simple.

Its too soon to worry about no replies yet if you didn't give a reply date. If you have still heard nothing by the 3rd/4th Jan, then maybe worry, but not yet.

Snap! www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1636387-WIBU-to-send-second-note-to-DSs-party-invitees

In the end I did send reminders before school ended (that got me two yeses that night), pinned one down (not literally! ) and asked (another yes, though my DS has said her DS isn't coming now, so who knows! ), one 'no' the day before Christmas eve, another 'yes' yesterday (though to be fair I think this one assumed I knew she was coming as I asked her about it ages ago!) and naff all from the rest.

Ah well fuck it, I've two friends with kids who were invited and who won't let me down, a couple of others who will hopefully turn up, we'll make the best of it (though I did like the idea of cancelling and leaving them to just turn up to an empty soft play! )

It's over a week away! The invitations are probably still in the invitees' bags (or the on a desk in the nursery tbh). You'll get responses on the 2nd, I'll bet.

It's over a week away! The invitations are probably still in the invitees' bags (or the on a desk in the nursery tbh). You'll get responses on the 2nd, I'll bet.

I am sure that while there are some rude people out there it is not standard practice to not rsvp? really? DD has only had one big party, with 20 children, two did not bother replying or turning up. rude, but not so bad as none of them.

I am sure they are just busy with christmas.

I think preschool parties aren't worth the hassle. save the parties until your child is old enough to appreciate them and the other kids able to come without dragging a parent for the duration.

I've always had that problem with nursery invites, one year we had a max number and I had to turn two children away as the venue would,n't let them in. (their parents couldn't bother to reply). it does really annoy me, it's very rude, it only takes a moment to mail someone.
I'd cancel if you haven't got any replies before 2nd, but I wouldn't bother letting people know its been cancelled, if they subsequently email you to say they' coming then you can email back...otherwise let them turn up.

I missed an invite to a child's party as it was left in my dds pigeonhole at nursery. Had just had a baby and other people had been picking up so not checked it. In my case nursery rang the day before party and I followed up with mum. I would remind on wed and make your decision on thurs 4th.

If you do go ahead, don't do party bags.

Oh blast and nuts!! The sodding nursery is closed until the 3rd so I can't do any reminders. All poised to cancel if I don't get rsvps and of course won't let them know it's cancelled because I'm assuming if people don't rsvp then they're not coming anyway. Agree with you 2rebecca and I had a hunch this would be a pain in the arse. I think it's silly to do these big parties for such young children and think it makes more sense once they're in school and you can just invite the class, I got all caught up in what other people do. We'll take her somewhere fab instead. I still think it's bloody rude to not rsvp but yes the time of year is a factor.

Did you cancel?

What happened with the party?

Update?

Yeah, update?!