I am in a right mess today 
my DP doesn't really speak to his mum as she's an alcoholic and is very nasty with it, we both fell out with his sister about 18months ago over something were actually not clear about but as adults I think the whole thing is petty and childish.......anyway she once asked me if her children could call me Auntie and mine call her Auntie and her husband Uncle to which I said yes.......when she decided to no longer speak to us she stopped putting Auntie and Uncle in my DC cards but I continued to put it in mine to her DC as its got nothing to do with the children..........I see her 5 days a week at school and she won't speak to me or my DC or DP when he drops off! Today his Uncle and Nan rang to ask if they could bring his mum round......I said I'd rather they didn't as she can't be trusted and to be honest I'm about to give birth and don't need the stress as when ever she's drunk we get awful texts and phone calls from her, we went out of our way on her 60th and when she turned up she was hammered so she let our DC down big time AGAIN! He told them they could bring her, my DP acted like she'd never done anything wrong and everything was rosy......I can kind of understand this as she's his mother but she'll never treat him right if he allows her to get away with it each time! They brought presents for our DC from his sister and again no Auntie or Uncle on the tags........she also sent my DP a photo of her DC and wrote on the back to Uncle.......not even a mention of me.........
I'm more than happy for my DP to have a relationship with his mum and sister but all I ask is he does it away from me, like I said to him today to go and meet them in the pub or somewhere or go round to his sisters to see them........he says he doesn't really want to see either of them so won't go to his sisters but feels he should see his mum.......but why in our house when he knows how horrible she is to me and everyone, the amount of times she's let our DC down yet he invites her in like nothing's happened..........
AIBU to want him to peruse his relationship with her away from me and AIBU to want to never set eyes on his sister ever again? Or am I just being hormonal?