to feel like a charity case because I'm single?? (light-hearted)

[ibelieveinyouandme]

No bil I really don't appreciate you asking me in front of the entire family over Christmas dinner whether I have a boyfriend yet.

It sometimes feels like I could climb Everest and cure cancer but my life still wouldn't be complete because I don't have a boyfriend.

Had a first date not long ago, friends were there when I met him so asked me if we had arranged a date and I told them yes and what day it was.

Three of them sent me good luck texts ... now that's very sweet but ... I so also find it ever so slightly patronising.

aibu?

lurkerspeaks I loved your post, it sounded almost pure Jilly Cooper (that's a compliment by the way!)

I am very happy on my own. It has taken a long time to be fair but after 12 years as a lone parent and seven years without a proper relationship, I am happy to state I love being on my own.

Almost everyone I know is in a non-so-great or downright awful relationship; why do they stay (kids, too scared to live alone, finances), why do they settle?

I enjoy my home, the peace and quiet of my life, my stupidly demanding job but most of all the amazing relationship I have with my DSs. They respect means now they are both older, we are friends as well as related.

I get the 'how come you're on my own'; no answer to that really, but I am glad I am even though no one believes me.

The worst comment I hear is "you're so pretty, why the hell are you single?"

Never said to me haha, but I have heard it many times.

So basically what they're saying is only beautiful girls have boyfriends. If you're pretty and single theres obviously something wrong with you.

Single by choice here, of course no one believes that,.I mean.I must really want.a man right! Em actually no I really don't.

My family aren't so rude they'd say it to my face, well not often anyway but I know they think there's something wrong with me because I don't want/need a man in my life.
I feel like recording their frequent moans about their partners and.playing it back to them, see if they still think I'm crazy!

Teahouse, that sounds lovely

Why thank you (bows).

I am single by habit. Have been so for years. Have a very nice life - good job, lovely flat, great friends, brilliant holidays and plenty of small children to borrow(and corrupt with treats) for fun outings. I have met and been out with a few people over the last couple of years but it increasingly feels like an imposition to let them into my space and my life.....

The only thing that worries me is getting old - need to make sure I can afford either lots of private home care or a fuck off posh nursing home to get decrepit in as I won't have children to dump on.

[sighs]. where do these people get off?

My dad made me a bit on Christmas day night... I met (now ex) dp shortly before I turned 19, he was 10 years older. 7 years on, I'd grown up changed, he hadn't, I finished things. Since then (10 months) I've had 2 casual "liasons". Dad was saying that I was too old for "that sort of behaviour" (I'm 27) and that I should be looking for someone to "settle down with". Thanks dad, but right now I'm very much enjoying the bed to myself, no cricket, only my food to cook, dishes to wash, seeing my family when I want, friends when I want, not feeling divided (between friends and dp) on nights out, etc etc etc. Grrrrrr [/rant]