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To not ask her for the receipt?

23 replies

Notfootball · 26/12/2012 12:53

DD is big for her age, she is 3 but is now wearing size 4-5. MIL bought her a lovely jumper in 3-4 which I will have to return but I don't want to ask her for the receipt as previous times, she has been ungracious when it comes to giving it to me and once pointedly said "I DO know my own granddaughter you know". She actually behaves as if offended if I ask for it and I don't need it. DH just says ask for it.
We're going with the MN massive on this one.

OP posts:

whistlestopcafe · 26/12/2012 12:54

Do you need the receipt? Can't you just exchange it for the bigger size?

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 26/12/2012 12:55

Why can't DH ask for it?

OlaRapaceFru · 26/12/2012 12:55

Get your DH to ask his mother for the receipt?

ParsleyTheLioness · 26/12/2012 12:55

Could dh ask her for the receipt?

Lueji · 26/12/2012 13:01

I agree with whistle.
The shop is likely to agree to exchange for a bigger size, or similarly priced clothes.
Receipts are mostly demanded for returns.

If not, get DH to ask, or sell on ebay.

Or show up in her home with DD in said clothes showing how small they are.

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Notfootball · 26/12/2012 13:10

DH does/would ask for the receipt but she feels the need to give it directly to me with the required remark and pout. I'm happy to swap it for the same thing/whatever is available but if it has been reduced in the sale and we have to choose a different item, you only get the current sale price and DH is bothered by the price difference/thinks we should get the full value of the purchase.

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WorraLorraTurkey · 26/12/2012 13:10

That was my first thought too...that your DH should ask her for it or ask her to exchange for a bigger size.

WhereYouLeftIt · 26/12/2012 13:11

"DH just says ask for it."
His mother. So he should ask her. Let him put up with her pointed comments.

WorraLorraTurkey · 26/12/2012 13:22

I think the 'price' difference thing is a little bit petty really.

What does it matter as long as you get something you like that fits?

WhereYouLeftIt · 26/12/2012 13:23

Ah, cross-post.

"DH does/would ask for the receipt but she feels the need to give it directly to me with the required remark and pout."
All the more reason for him to ask. I'd even go so far as to suggest she deliberately buys the wrong size for the pleasure of doing this to you. And your DH needs to pull her up on it.

"... DH is bothered by the price difference/thinks we should get the full value of the purchase."
All the more reason for him to stop passing the buck to you and to get the receipt off his mother HIMSELF.

LineRunner · 26/12/2012 13:29

Just go and swap it at the shop.

PurplePidjChickIsNotTheMessiah · 26/12/2012 15:50

Sounds like dh and dd need to go on a visit to Grandma's to give Mummy a break, and he can collect it while he's there.

Don't give her the satisfaction!

PurplePidjChickIsNotTheMessiah · 26/12/2012 15:50

Sounds like dh and dd need to go on a visit to Grandma's to give Mummy a break, and he can collect it while he's there.

Don't give her the satisfaction!

whois · 26/12/2012 17:47

Anyone that is bothered by the following is a prime knob.

"oh how absolutely lovely these clothes are. Such a shame DC has just been through a growth spurt and is now wearing size x. I don't suppose you still have the receipt so we can swap size y for x do you? They are such lovely clothes it would be a shame to only get a week or so of wear out of them."

Children. Grow.

jessjessjess · 26/12/2012 18:16

Just swap it - you can do that without a receipt

CwtchesAndCuddles · 26/12/2012 19:17

Give it back to MIL with a smile saying how much you love it but would she change it for a bigger size because it's too small.

Let her change it ..........or ofer the receipt for you to!

gimmecakeandcandy · 26/12/2012 19:21

Worra what are you on about? Of course the price difference matters ffs!

Loislane78 · 26/12/2012 19:22

I always give gift receipts with my presents as with the best will in the world, sizes change by shop, style, material etc. and I'd rather someone changed for what they wanted (at full price). I try to buy gifts I think people will like but if they don't I'm not super offended if they change for something else - its the thought.

People need to lighten up! Give her the goddam receipt!

RainbowRabbit33 · 26/12/2012 19:30

Sorry gimme, I'm with Worra on the price difference. The OP likes the jumper MiL bought, it's just that it's the wrong size. Assuming the shop has the same jumper in the right size and she can just do a swap, they haven't lost anything.

If she can only get a credit note for the sale value of the gift, she may find something else suitable that's also in the sale. It might even be reduced by more than the original jumper, in which case she gets a bit of a freebie!

Ultimately though, little girl ends up with something that fits and everyone likes. Even if they 'lose', it's only going to be a very small amount of money. And if MiL is a pita over the receipt, well then it's her own fault!

MyLittleAprilSunshine · 26/12/2012 19:31

Get your partner to ask his mother.

If you are not there she can't give you a primadonna whingeathon.

MyLittleAprilSunshine · 26/12/2012 19:32

£1 difference on an item of clothing really shouldn't matter too much if it's comfy for DD and looks nice on her, surely?

Picturesinthefirelight · 26/12/2012 19:37

I get this a lot as although ds is 8 almost 9 he is in she 5 clothes. I still have several pairs of pyjamas bought for him two years ago which are too big and will be too young (cartoon characters) by the time they fit

The problem with exchanging afterwards is often stick is very low and I have often been unable to exchange like for like and so ended up having to get sale price back for the item but exchanging it for full priced new stock

This year i pre emptied it all by sneakily opening all presents that felt like clothes and doing the exchanges the week before Xmas. This also stopped him bring upset as genus a bit sensitive about his size and held thing up saying that wont fit me

Anyone who gets offended should make sure (by asking in advance) they buy the right size in the first place.

FestiveElement · 26/12/2012 19:49

Either ask DH to get the receipt from her, and avoid seeing her until he has it, or give it back to her and ask her to exchange it.

I think your DH is being petty about the price difference.

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