To think this is not ok to say and i shoudnt let it go

[fannychmeller]

this one is potentially teenagey and trivial a bit jeremykyleish even.
but would like some perspective.

we will start with jk bit first -ex stopped over xmas eve so he could be there for present opening in the morning.
We have been split for six months, havent had sex in that time. after 1 or 6 glasses of wine we ended up in bed together
i woke up and thought fuck it.
file it under shit i regret, sweep it under the carpet and carry on as usual.

trivial bit- we were talking about sprouts and i said "well you would probably like them if you had them cooked properly with bacon"
(he only has his mums that are boiled to a pureed sprout ball thing that disintegrate in your mouth mmmmm) i continued "its just that sprouts arent nice when overcooked."

teenagey bit- he cut me off and said " your hairy muff isnt nice"

i was really hurt by this. its just so personal i dont understand why he thinks its ok to say to me or any woman. he thinks i should let it go and as usual is turning it round so i look too sensitive. does anyone think iabu to not be ok with what he said?

to add a bit more, he is desperate to get back together doing a great job isnt he!
and id just like to state my fanny isnt that hairy, were taking about 3 weeks of not shaving its not to the point i can make plaited pig tails ffs.

Leave the bastard again

What a repulsive little man. Back home to Mummy and her sprout farts, methinks.

What an absolute wanker.

Never let him near your woman's genitalia again.

You could have said "Yes I agree, which makes me want to thank my lucky stars that those cheesy balls are only available at Christmas! Now that I know what all the fuss is about I won't be partaking in them again next year. - Cheers!"

ooh i love that idea. i could make hundreds of them with other charming phrases such as
"the only good thing about our relationship was the cooking the cleaning and the sex"
and
"you will never be with anyone else so you might as well just get back with me"

wheres the pen and paper.

Other suggested reply:

"So why'd it make you come in ten seconds like a teenage virgin AS USUAL then?"

OP, thank you, this has given DH and I a good laugh too! He looked a bit sad and said "our lives are really boring, aren't they?".

I can't think why you don't want him to return. He sounds such a catch. If nothing else, you'd be doing womankind a service by making sure he doesn't inflict himself on anybody else.

BalloonSlayer i wish i had thought of that before, would be so true. damn it. moment has passed now.

MsVestibule that makes me feel much better for the 6 years i wasted with him, i was providing a service to other women

he has bad manners. if you've just eaten a full meal at someone's house, you don't then say 'that was horrible!'. he'd had his go. his comments about your muff are just bad manners. don't let him in there again.