To be fed up with a Boxing Day birthday

[Yamyoid]

I'm feeling grumpy cos I had to ask Dh to come and get dd so I could have my lie in (she's not sleeping well at the moment so he was on the couch). He knew she was awake because he was up with ds.

Then, I discover we've mis-communicated about plans for the day. In-laws are visiting (not happy but that's another story) and Dh is making a ham for lunch with nice pickles etc and we'd have a take away for tea I THOUGHT, after us both slaving in the kitchen all day yesterday, it's all I wanted to do. But no, the ham's for tea tonight. It's not even a proper evening meal on my birthday.

I've said we'll have takeaway tomorrow when it's just us, so that's fine but I just feel miserable that every year my birthday gets sidelined by Christmas. I can never have the day how I want it. So this is just a big sulky moan to get it off my chest. Dh did buy me a beautiful necklace so I'm very lucky really.

SIL has a birthday on Xmas Day. I understand where you are all coming from, but SIL takes it to a new level. Her DC are not allowed to open presents until 12, as Mummy has to sit there and open her Bday presents . Anyone visiting has to pay all attention to her in the morning or she sulks.

She is a selfish mare anyway, but the sense of entitlement.

DH is normally so even tempered, and non reactive, but (without prompting) wrote in the Christmas Card to BIL and SIL, Happy Christmas and Happy Birthday to XXX

(huge back story, she has behaved disgracefully toward her MIL this year, and he just snapped)

Another birthday close to Christmas here. Childhood ruined by all the joint bday/Christmas gifts! On the plus side, DH has made it his mission to make up for the early disappointments.

His parents + he invited him= he cooks or makes other food arrangements.

Happy Birthday!

DP's is today too. It's without doubt the shittest day of the year to have a birthday. He's just gone out with a mate to try and find a pub which is open

I take everything back, dh had organised a small surprise party. I went downstairs after putting dd down for a nap and all my close friends had sneaked in. That was lovely, I've never had a surprise party for obvious reasons. So the ham was part of a buffet style party meal. I thought we had rather a lot of food.

Only issue is now just a handful of male friends are left and getting pissed and being noisy with dh while I'm sitting upstairs feeding dd to sleep. When I eventually get to join them, I can only drink a little due to breast feeding. So that's annoying but he had made an effort after all.

Bless you. It's rubbish. My dd's is the 28th which she shares with her uncle. Her granddad's was today, so we are over-run with inappropriate birthdays in our family! Fortunately my mil is so used to it that she makes a big fuss of them; she slaves away all Christmas day and then throws a big party on boxing day for her husband. She's a legend. I hope your DH makes it up to you.

Ok- so he did totally make it up to you! Hadn't read that when I posted! Well done your DH.

YANBU! My birthday is the 23rd so I sympathise completely! Insist you have a take away tonight!

Ah didn't see about the party when I posted! He done well fair play enjoy your few drinks

Reality check - does anyone over the age of about 10 actually have time for a special day on their birthday? No. You're lucky, you have a bank holiday day off for starters so don't have to trek to work or take a day of annual leave. Do what everyone else does, and if you are going to celebrate do it at the weekend. I'd love my birthday to fall at a time of year when everyone is at home anyway, the house is full of nice food and presents.

I have nothing useful to add but HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! from another person with a birthday too close to christmas. Someone mentioned upthread about their mum who insisted on seperate presents wrapped in birthday paper.. to anyone else reading this with a friend or relation with a christmas birthday this is hugely important!! ;)

Actually Worcestershiresauce, I acknowledged that I never have to work in an earlier post and yes there are positives, like nice food (yule log for breakfast) And I also said I was being a sulky teenager about it. I did love it when I was little though.

Aw yamoid, I'm just bitter because my birthday falls on such an unmemorable date that no one ever remembers! If I'm really really lucky I might get a card.... I certainly don't get a present unless I drop hints, constantly, for several days. It sucks.

Now a boxing day birthday - who'd be able to forget that

It's my birthday too - happy birthday to all boxing day birthday people! x

Watch when you schedule your new summer birthday. Mine comes after a festival thing that myself and my friends go to in the summer so by the time it comes around, everyone's saying 'well, that's me - no more drinking'. And my birthday is rehab time.

Happy birthday Rachel!

Worcestershire, I did ask Aibu and you are right. Birthdays are rubbish anytime if no one remembers.

Oh dear Celtic. I think that's what irritates me, no one is actually in much of a party mood cos they're all partied out. Apart from the drunk men currently in my living room and dd still isn't asleep.

Well done Yamyoid DH!

Hope everyone else had a nice birthday. I often get a bit maudlin on my birthday but the lovely MN threads handed me a beautifully gift-wrapped box of grip up.