To think my aunt is bu

[JazzAnnNonMouse]

They live in Australia, the rest of our family live in the uk. A relative kindly sends cheques to us all for Christmas of the same amount. My aunt is complaining that as she has to pay 15 dollars to cash hers in in Australia its unfair as she doesn't then get as much out of the£25 as the rest of us. She has suggested this year that she writes a 'kind' note explaining this and either asking for more to ofset the difference or suggest not getting a cheque at all. I think this would be very unreasonable and hurt relatives feelings. I think it's extremely rude and ungrateful!
Even if after paying to cash the cheque she only got enough to buy a bar of chocolate that's better than nothing? IMO its the thought that counts anyway and suggesting that relative should be more out of pocket for aunts life decision of moving to Australia is v v unreasonable?

Not patronising at all considering I know my relative and you don't.

I was going to try to give a constuctive answer till this^^

Why the fuck bother asking then?

She can still send a card.

Tell her to write two cheques to you and you will do a bank transfer to the account of the other relative, or take her into the bank to do it that way.

Surely trying to find the way with the least charges makes sense?

Can't you get set up with Paypal? That's international and you can send 'gifts' at no cost to sender or receiver.

If she does send a note then I will suggest these things, elderly relative thinks the Internet is evil, doesn't trust cash in post etc etc - for her a cheque is a safe reliable option and she has no concept of bank fees exchange rates etc.
Considering she might not even be here next Xmas (v elderly!) I still maintain that aunt wbu to change the arrangement especially (aunts favoured option) ask for more!