To give them back

[Pickles77]

DDs dad decided once again that when I think he's just walked away to turn up again like a nasty case of the runs.

Email Xmas eve asking to see her Boxing Day. No contact in two weeks over her welfare. Phone dropped in puddle apparently and laptop far too difficult to turn on.
Said he can see her supervised for two hours and as its cold he can't take her out as she is poorly. Cue a speech on how unreasonable my parents are for not letting him come to the house until he apologises, they need to learn to behave apparently! Cheek!
Anyway my main point is AIBU to tell him to shove his presents. They are late.
She is four months but that's not the point. He thinks it doesn't matter.
Also his parents present doesn't fit her and it's vile dog shit brown
AIBU to think I've got this far alone take your shitty shit stuff. Because that's not being a good dad.
Or ideally WIBU to donate them to a sure start or women's refuge then tight bastards spent his money & I've done something good

There us obviously a Huygens back story, but just going on what have said- yabu

Don't up the antagonism by giving them back. That's guaranteed to makr things worse.

Say thanks in a non committal way and give them to charity. The other issues are separate, though I know just how you feel.

Thanks Urm the back story is he left me at 23 weeks pg when I found out. Spent the rest of my pg shagging someone else. Never bought her anything. Was messing me around over contact. Had me driving around the country 3 days after her birth.
And we are now contact email only with a PRA and contact times and dates in place. He missed these last week no explanation.

I think you are right to insist that he sees her at the house and supervised. That's important. The gifts are not. Receive them graciously, thank and then do what you want with them. Always be the bigger person.

If you tell him to shove his presents for dd that gives him ammo to next year say "I'm not giving you dds presents because you chucked them last year. I want dd with me" think carefully before you act.

As normal wonderful advice from you all but AIBU to think how I do

I agree with other posters re: presents, just say thank, you photograph her it it (send them photo) and then donate them to charity. She won't notice as she is tiny.

re: contact you are being reasonable.

You are not being unreasonable to feel angry re: presents but as others say will make things harder next year if you are rude about them.

Pickles you have had alot of shit off this 'man' and you or dd do not deserve to be picked up and dropped, so drop him, cut off all contact with the twat. He'll threaten with court but from what I've heard of this guy from previous threads he won't make the effort, and if he does, the court will see this guy is a waste of space and energy. Make this new year coming a fresh start without this turd of a man in your life. He's not worth the effort I'm sure you see this.

I do... But it's DD

Well he had her a hour. The clothes were all too small. He hasn't time to change them nor the reciept.

He bought me a Christmas present too. You shall think I'm joking.
It's a hot water bottle, with the notion I may be cold at night.

AIBU to be in stitches

you saee i wouldnt have opened his present - i would have given it to him returned in packaging and told him it was inappropriate.

Oh he got it back alright.