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To not want to spend xmas day AND boxing day with colleagues? And a general unfestive rant.

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LoopsInHoops · 26/12/2012 05:34

We live abroad. Went for a dinner at a hotel with colleagues and neighbours, which seemed like a good idea when booked but wasn't really that great. The bus didn't arrive to pick us up so we waited in the sun for an hour, meaning the kids missed their nap and were tired and hungry, plus nappy leaked on my lap on the bus when it finally did turn up.
Nowhere to sit at meal apart from between two groups of kids that I teach (teenagers). Not my favourite thing for socialising. Plus their parents kept talking about school.
Despite the food being amazing and it being a very posh hotel, there was no drink supplied - just a single welcome drink would have been nice. The waiting staff were very busy, so didn't manage to get a drink at all until dessert, by which time the baby was too tired to sit.
Outside space (only place kids could play) had a floor-height pond, so little DD couldn't keep away from it, and DH allowed her to play with the manky water - had to take her top off as it got too wet, hadn't packed a replacement.
Got home much later than planned (big group of people - tricky to get everyone going on time), DDs knackered. Had to rush through present opening. Kids eventually to bed.

So today, DH announces that he's arranged to go and play cricket at school with the same people we went with yesterday. He says it's a family event and I should go. But I REALLY don't want to see these people again. Christmas was a bit of an anticlimax as it is, I really cannot be bothered to make small talk with my colleagues, kids that I teach and their parents. Again.

So I've send DH with older DD. Feeling miserable now, nothing to do except tidy up (little DD asleep), my presents didn't include anything to do/read/watch (I got an alarm clock).

Glum. Sorry. WIBU to refuse to go? Any ideas how to cheer up now? Sorry for whiny rant. Xmas Sad

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FellatioNelson · 26/12/2012 05:39

I don't blame you. It sounds crap. We live abroad as well and DH asked me if I'd like to do Christmas lunch in a hotel. I said no. I'd rather be at home and cook, otherwise it would just feel like the usual expat brunch and not like Christmas at all.

We are doing a 'big group' thing today, but they are not colleagues so hopefully it will be fine. Where do you live?

LoopsInHoops · 26/12/2012 05:42

KL, how about you? Really feeling glum. Need to snap out of it.

I know it is unreasonable, but a bit pissed off about the present thing. I bought him a laptop. I got an alarm clock. This is the third alarm clock he has bought me for xmas since we've been together.

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Iheartpasties · 26/12/2012 05:48

Alarm clock? That pretty much sucks

FellatioNelson · 26/12/2012 05:50

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LoopsInHoops · 26/12/2012 05:55

In fairness to him, I did mention that I needed an alarm clock, as mine doesn't keep the time very well. But I (stupidly) expected that to be a little present in my stocking, not my main present. Also, it's an iphone dock, so quite a posh alarm clock, but I don't have an iphone (and he has, so he's using it). Hmmm.

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FellatioNelson · 26/12/2012 05:56

Oh ok, but he should have got you the iPhone to go with it! It's a nice thing, but it sounds more like a present for him that for you!

LoopsInHoops · 26/12/2012 05:59

Yes. I would love an iphone. But I bought his for his birthday in the summer, and he's sort of broken it, (update that the network couldn't support) so although I need a new phone, he doesn't want me to get an iphone as he's pissed off with apple. Hmm He loves his though. Xmas Hmm

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TanteRose · 26/12/2012 06:04

"he doesn't want me to get an iPhone" Hmm

sod that - go out and get one if you want one

why don't you cheer yourself up by going out for a bit of post-Christmas shopping spree? get yourself a new phone, some English books, a couple of DVDs and some yummy food

then hand him the baby when he gets in and enjoy your evening watching a video

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LoopsInHoops · 26/12/2012 06:11

That's exactly what I thought of doing tante.

I can't decide though, keep crappy old phone and get an ipad, or proper phone?

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TanteRose · 26/12/2012 06:15

Grin yay!

well, I've got an iPhone (old model, 4?) and I love it! an iPad would be too big for me...

of course, if you have small DCs then an iPad is handy for showing videos etc.

Choices, choices Grin

go on, off you go - have a lovely afternoon (hope its not raining)!

what's the weather like over in KL? we spent a lovely holiday in Penang a couple of years ago...

LoopsInHoops · 26/12/2012 06:20

Oh. He has the car seats in his car. I can't go. :(

Hot, humid and fairly likely to rain, as usual. :)

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TanteRose · 26/12/2012 06:25

oh poo!

well, tell him you're using the car tomorrow, or at least in the next couple of days.

seriously, you need a few more Xmas treats - its hard when you are far away from friends and family.

maybe if it rains, the cricket will be called off, and your DH will come home early so you can use the car? fingers crossed, eh?

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LoopsInHoops · 26/12/2012 06:30

My lovely friend is on her way over. :)

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TanteRose · 26/12/2012 06:35

Smile have fun

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