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AIBU to be sad...?

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Ginshizz · 25/12/2012 16:49

This Christmas, DH and I wanted to be on our own with our 7mo DD. We've had a difficult year and we wanted to celebrate getting through it all and enjoy our little girl just on our own (we are seeing extended family tomorrow).

We said we would just get each other little presents - I got three little things for him and a card that has his favourite bird singing on it (one of the rspb ones where they actually sing Blush )

He got me nothing, not even a card. I know it sounds stupid but I'm really sad. This is our first Christmas together as a little family and I've had nothing to unwrap.

I wasn't expecting anything massive but even some chocolates would have been nice.

Right, I'm off to open to the Christmas fizz and sob into it....

Wishing everyone much merriness and less dufus-ish DHs than mine!

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Ginshizz · 25/12/2012 20:12

Oh thanks ... Charliefox that's it exactly, it's not that I would have minded had the pressie been cheap, I just wanted DH to have thought about me for the five mins it would take to go onto amazon and click on something.

The daft thing is that he would have been devastated had I not bought him anything. Grrrr.

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MrsDeVere · 25/12/2012 20:15

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Xales · 25/12/2012 20:18

How come there are so many inconsiderate shits around.

There are 365 days between Christmases to be 'too busy' every single one of those is bull.

I bet they are the same with birthdays and other important dates.

I think everyone whose other half has treated them so shabbily should do the same for the whole of the next year.

If you are also the one who has spent time sourcing presents cards etc for your bother half's family I would tell them you new years resolution is not to do it and they can. Just send a card from yourself and the children if they cannot be bothered.

Xales · 25/12/2012 20:19

Sorry for typos on phone!

HoFlippinHo · 25/12/2012 20:25

He finishes work at 4? And that's an excuse? Snort. My dh leaves for work at about 7 and gets home 8/9. Yet he still manages to get me some lovely, thoughtful presents. There's no excuse for your dh - he's just thoughtless and lazy and knows he can get away with it. Sad

ProPerformer · 25/12/2012 22:50

YANBU!! My DH (bless him) hates the whole present buying thing with a passion, he'd much rather just give me some money and let me but my own then wrap it as a 'surprise'! Lol

Every year I give him 3 or 4 little things (money is tight so can't get much as we'be both said would rather get DS stuff) and he gets me 1 yes one gift!! But it is always something that I have asked for (even if oy jokingly like the book he got me last year.) so I can't be mad at him..... At least he listens to me! (This year I got the Wii game that I've been hankering over ever sinse I first heard of its existance.)

maddening · 25/12/2012 23:27

Yanbu - I would expect a present and a keepsake on behalf of dc.

HollaAtMeSanta · 26/12/2012 11:51

Glad you put your foot down and made him see the error of his ways, Ginshizz! Let us know what you get for New Year Xmas Smile

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Ginshizz · 26/12/2012 20:21

Thank you all for your posts! DH got another bollocking today as we were with my family who had all bought thoughtful, caring presents for each other...

I gave him a list of some expensive lovely jewellers nearby and made it clear that the brief is to make up for his woeful episode of tightness.

I have decided not to be sad; but to be grumpy and demanding instead Grin

Hope you are all well and had a lovely Boxing Day

Xxx

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ledkr · 26/12/2012 20:28

I think it's a shame that so many blokes don't buy gifts for their wives and that so many women have to buy there own,
I really can't see any excuse for it whatsoever and I'm interested to know how many if these guys bought or didn't buy presents before they were married and had to work a bit harder.
My dh has managed to buy me done really nice gifts and he works some horrible shifts he even git me beautiful earrings for our anniversary on Xmas eve. What touches me most is the gifts he's bought from memories of conversations we have had like a book we talked about liking and replaced a hat I lost last weekend.
I thinks it's mean and thoughtless not to but your closest relative a gift.

ledkr · 26/12/2012 20:29

Sorry for typo city there

oldraver · 26/12/2012 20:37

So he would of been devasted had he of not got any presents off of you ? I would be confiscating any that I had bought until you had a thoughtful gift

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Ginshizz · 26/12/2012 21:41

ledkr your DH sounds lovely!

oldraver I had not thought of that. I am so pissed off that I think I might do it...

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