To not want to go near someone whose potentially got norovirus?

[timothyclaypole]

I really don't think I am, but your opinions would be appreciated as I wonder if I'm a bit precious.

We're supposed to be going to the IL's on boxing day. Saw MIL today and found out that SIL has been vomiting and has the runs (not sure when it started but she def has it today). I said uh huh, if she's ill then I'd rather not go near as for one, I don't want any of us to get it (DC's are 1 and 3), and two, we've all been ill quite a lot recently with various bugs, and this has resulted me being told I have to have an occy health ax at work. I'm fine with having the assessment,but not with potentially having another sick episode on my record (I go back to work on fri).

MIL's reaction was as I expected - she doesn;t think it's norovirus anyway, that I can't avoid it and could catch it anywhere. But I'm standing firm. Thankfully DH is with me on this and agrees that we will stay away if needed.

They have form with being very laissez faire with illness and making me feel very precious. But to me it's common sense - you don't go near someone knowingly who's got symptoms of the winter vomiting bug! Or do you?

MN jury????

They have has d and v, whatever the cause I wouldn't risk going near!

YANBU. If she's got D+V it's irrelevant if it's technically norovirus or not anyway. People are very fond of denying it "ooh it must be something I ate" sort of thing. If she's throwing up, you could catch it.

You don't want it, and your small children certainly don't want it.

Yes, you could catch it anyway, but that's a silly reason to take a big risk.

Yanqu. DS and I spent all night vomiting. We've cancelled the guests for tomorrow and are staying away from a family party on Boxing Day. Just don't want to risk anyone else getting it.

YANBU it's very infectious and nasty. Yes, you could catch it anywhere but that's a different risk to knowingly exposing yourself to it.

SO nice to see so many sensible people here saying stay away. In RL...not so much

YANBU and it is thanks to people with their attitude that bugs like Norovirus are rife!

YANBU. Although if she's been fine for 48 hours and they've cleaned well then should be ok.

yanbu.

i dropped some presents off for a friends children today and didnt stay as her DD and DH have it! i wish they had told me! i made a sharp exit....

if i get that now i will scream.....

OMG Sarge. That's one of my nightmare scenarios...Seriously. Hope you got away with not getting it.

halleluja!!! (and I did just have to Google that to see how to spell it ). You are such a sensible bunch of ladies, thankfully.

I was very pleased with dh for agreeing with me as he is desperate to go over on Boxing day but he thankfully is the one sensible one out of the bunch.

You're right, 48 hours isn't going to be over by Boxing day, is it? I need to make sure we get told the proper details about it, not a vague "oh well she was only a bit ill on xmas eve so I'm sure it'll be fine". I've spent quite enough time over the last few weeks cleaning vomit up off my carpet and out of the middle of my bra (thank's DS1!).

Sarge I'm trying not to think about that, I gave MIL a couple of hugs today!

YANBU....

I currently have ds on my knee after vomiting all day since 4am. It's his first Christmas and I'm gutted that he's poorly for it. I'm also mightily pissed off that he's picked it up as it basically means he's been around someone with selfish bastards.

i do find all this worrying about cathing something a bit strange. people seem to be getting ocd over it.

seems like lots of excuses for not visiting inlaws

Uptheamp welcome! Please, explain the viewpoint from the other side of the fence. If norovirus is rife, advice is to stay away for 48hours from end of symptoms and advice (that I heard on the news) was that hygiene isn't cutting it thins year so staying away is the best option, then why is wanting to actually, stay away, OCD?

That's not meant to sound facetious, I genuinely want to know what you think, as it may give me an insight into MIL's head!

uptheamp do you want d and v? It's not ocd, it's being sensible. There are reasons why things like norovirus spread, the main one being contact between people who don't follow the recommended advice to stop it spreading.

no, of course i do not want it! i work in a place where it has been rife, but if everyone stayed away to avoid it the place just would not function.

some other threads on here seem ocd in relation to the virus, it's like swine flu again.everyone panicking about something that they may not even get.

don't want a row about it on christmas eve, but that's just my take on it

No row making, honest. But it's SO contagious, I really don't get why people carry on with it. A cold/cough whatever, fine. Not something that could hospitalise someone. I know of two healthy adults who have been admitted to hospital with severe dehydration because of it

'of course I don not want it!' exactly. Neither does anyone else. Yes, life goes on but that doesn't mean people can carry on wandering around infecting everyone just because they feel a bit better. Guidelines are written for a reason.

It's your SIL that should be staying away not you!

I feel very lucky that we didn't catch it off a child who turned up to DDs party on Wednesday having been sick the night before and then was actually sick whilst here! I was shocked that her parents sent her knowing she was ill, and even more shocked when they were reluctant to pick her up asking if she wanted to come home, some people are just plain selfish.

I don't blame you for staying away and hope you enjoy your day. Hopefully MIL won't catch it because I am sure it will be hard for you not to think it serves her right.....