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To think no-one patted me on the back

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BrawToken · 24/12/2012 01:41

I have been slogging my guts out all day cleaning/cooking/wrapping as have to go to my family Christmas tomorrow today actually whoops and friends are coming to stay as soon as I get back. I work full time and am just starting my holiday and have two kids. I have literally been on my knees scrubbing most of today and yesterday (the house had totally got out of control.

I have recently had a tooth out following an abscess (and horrendous toothache) and had proper flu for the first time in my life.

My friend who I loved and saw as a Mother figure (I live quite far from my Mum) - we called each other Mum and daughter jokingly and worked very closely together - died very suddenly a couple of weeks ago.

Today I went into the under sink cupboard to get some cleaning stuff and was down on my knees and felt a hand on my back, in a reassuring way. I liked it so didn't move for about 20 seconds. I knew when I turned round there would be no-one there. There wasn't. EEK.

Am I going a little mad?

OP posts:
covermyfacefromthesun · 24/12/2012 01:43

Maybe you subconsciously needed a pat on the back and so you imagined it.

I do not think it was the ghost of your friend.

  • Also I am very sorry for your loss.
susanann · 24/12/2012 01:46

I feel sure it was your "mum" saying im ok and youre doing too much and im here looking out for you. but then im into spiritualism. Your choice whether you believe or not. Sorry youre having such a stressful time. Hope you enjoy Christmas x

BrawToken · 24/12/2012 01:49

Thank you for replying cover. I am not in the least superstitious and I agree. I think I wanted it to be her so I didn't turn round. I loved her so much. But I knoe that kind of shit doesn't happen in my rational brain.

OP posts:
BrawToken · 24/12/2012 01:51

Sorry susan, typed that before your post showed up. Thank you, I hope you have a lovely Christmas too x

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Damash12 · 24/12/2012 08:07

Who knows for sure, but if it gave you great comfort after so much pain, and loss then who cares and it did it's job. It got you through the day and maybe just gave you some inner peace after a hard time. I lost my mum last year and sometimes just know she's around... Have a lovelyy Christmas and be very kind to yourself x

susanann · 24/12/2012 15:20

no offence taken OP! x

Fakebook · 24/12/2012 15:25

Eeek! That would scare the hell out of me! But I'm glad you felt reassured by it.

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