To be pissed off that dh has put photos of our baby holding beer bottles on his blog

[vikm]

...after we'd agreed not to publish her on the Internet in any form inc. Facebook. He hid it from me so he must have known I'd hate it but said he knew it'd be controversial. When I found out & flipped, he said he wouldn't do it anymore but he has. I'm fuming. There's a whole blog of my baby with beer bottles. I think potentially dh could have an unhealthy drinking habit and am really not happy for him to involve our baby.

Errm...well it's a bit common. I hate those sort of staged photos.

Surely your DH having a potential drinking problem is a separate issue from him deciding to post silly photos of your baby on his blog?

It's shite. However, does "we'd agreed not to" mean "I'd told him we weren't"? Did he actually wholeheartedly embrace the no pictures on the internet rule?

It's wrapped up in the fact he tried to hide it. He knew I'd be pissed off about the photos with our dd but also that he's obsessing over alcohol (after giving up weed & cigarettes - he just moves onto the next thing). I can't control what he drinks but I think I have a right to say where my daughter appears and in what circumstances. You're right though - its a bit 'common' and boring.

Yes! He thought it was crap that relatives put her on Facebook and both of us agreed that it wasn't something we like.

you are not being unreasonable, if someone reports that you could end up with a visit from SS

I was going to say YABU on the basis of your thread title, in that some people think its funny and that it is basically harmless. I am not keen on them btw, but live and let live....

But, if you think he has an alcohol problem then I would be less happy. In all honesty though, I think you should be focussing on how healthy (or otherwise) it is for your dd to grow up with a man with addiction issues, who thinks nothing of lying to you and using her to make a point.

A visit from ss

Maybe start a thread here or on Relationships about his drinking/pot/cigarettes. FWIW, I worked in addictions and moving from one addiction to the next is a pretty classic behaviour. It's just moving the addiction around until someone actually looks at why they become like this and how they can change. I've seen people ('dry drunks') move from drugs to alcohol to exercise to religion. Whatever as long as it is all consuming and pain-killing.

I don't think he has an alcohol problem yet. He says that his interest is like a hobby - I worry because it's become pretty major quite quickly and he spends A LOT of time reading about beers. He grew up with a member of his family drinking far too much & I wonder whether he sees that he's gone too far.
The blog is only funny if we both think it is. He knew I wouldn't.