to think mil could make a bit of effort

[2anddone]

Sorry I know its another mil thread!! Every year at Christmas its just me, dh and dc. We do our family visits over Christmas and Christmas eve. Dh went to his mothers today and was told we had already missed his gran as she was away for Christmas but they forgot to tell us. They then said they have not bought dc anything for Christmas but might get them a jumper or something in the January sales (bear in mind pil are well off and asked us 4 weeks ago what dc would like!) they then said they forgot to buy Christmas cards for dc. My bio had his pfb 6 weeks ago and are going to pil at Christmas as we did ds first year. Dh said there was cards and presents for dn under their tree. Am feeling and that my dc seem to have been replaced and know ds will notice that there is nothing from them Christmas day so aibu to think a bit of effort could have been made?

Yanbu, but unfortunately people can be horrible like that. My in laws often forget/can't be bothered getting my SD anything for birthday and Christmas even though she is their family. My side however treat her as if she was my own and always treat her the same as my nephews.

I always make a huge effort with the in laws kids. My husbands brother never sends anything for SD despite the huge effort I make with his kids. And we have helped him out with money etc. I know he doesnt have a lot, but a fiver or even a bar of chocolate in a card would be something. I won't stop buying for their kids though as it's not fair on the kids and they always look forward to getting presents from us as they are thoughtful and I get what I know they will love.

MIL is the same. She buys some half-hearted charity shop shit for DD then says "I don't give big presents at Christmas, as I give all year round."

Yeah, you give half-hearted charity shop shit four times a year because you have no imagination or common sense.

Purple and 2 I really feel for you......similar situation with my in-laws. I just now accept that they are not as family orientated as my lot...Euphemia may your dd have a gsoh because of granny's pressies.

Thanks! I am just really surprised that she hasn't bothered at all this year usually she makes an effort even if what she may buy is quite random (think aged 6-7 tights for dd 4th birthday as she didn't know how big she was ). MIL lives in London Monday to Friday for her work and also has to work one weekend a month but just lately she has stopped telling us when she is coming home even though we know she has been back to see dn. She didn't see my 2 dc from Christmas Eve last year until their birthdays in September and hasn't seen them since, I wouldn't mind but we only live 5 miles from her house!!

She does now, Mummy - she used to just love anything Grandma gave her, but she's getting cynical like me wise.

Her birthday present was a home-knitted scarf that barely went around her neck, was grubby, full of mistakes, and smelled of cigarette smoke. DD was ever so polite whilst trying not to meet my eye.