...to wonder how DSS2 (6) manages make so much of a mess in his room all the time?

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Future MIL (Nana) is coming tomorrow so DP wants the house clean for his DM's arrival. DSS2's room has been cleaned twice in the past 2 1/2 weeks to the point that all his clothes & toys have been put away, DVDs put in their cases, books all put on the shelf and his bloody zillions of Doctor Who comics have been put in a crate. The last time was last Sunday. DSS2 was in school 3 days this week, off sick on Thursday (last day of term - bad cough & feeling sick) so he spent most of the day hogging DP's computer (to watch the DW Xmas trailer on repeat) & went shopping with DP yesterday. For 2 nights since Sunday, he has been at his mother's so all in all, he's hardly been in his room in the past 6 days.

Yesterday afternoon, DSS2 was given a carrier bag and told to clear the rubbish from his room again. I have size 4 feet and cannot put a foot inside the door without stepping on something. The layer of crap becomes at least 2-3 inches deep by the time you get to the side of his bed. He first came down having only filled half of the bag and was promptly sent back upstairs to find more rubbish. He got the bag to three quarters full before going to his mother's last night.

DP has just come downstairs after helping DSS2 for 15 minutes and says he's come to the conclusion that all the crap (random scraps of paper, etc) that ends up being trampled through the house all originates from DSS2's room.

(BTW, a whole carrier bag of rubbish has already been slung out for the bin since DP went up to help again.)

How on bloody earth can a child make so much bloody mess?????

Dd aged 7 makes a massive mass in any room. She has lots of toys and I probably tidy her room everyday. She also has special needs so I am probably very easy on her and I do the picking up for her. I think if she didn't have sn I would be making her do more to keep it tidy herself as I agree it's a massive pita.

Both my kids are hideously lazy and messy. we have a rule where I send them up to tidy every morning in the hols (evening in school time) and anything left on the floor goes in the confiscated bucket for 48 hours.
It's the only way or after a couple of days I can't see the floor.

He's probably been talking to my DD2 (5) who is sooo untidy and has given him tips. You have my sympathy.

Oh, and my standard answer to "where is x" is "it's on the floor where you dropped it dear" "but I can't find it" "well put it away properly and next time
You want it you will know exactly where it is won't you"

I feel like a broken record sometimes.

Mine's 12 YO and is hasn't got any better no matter what we've done

Hope you don't mind me camping out on your thread to see if I can pick up any tips OP?

Roger - We've had that recently. DSS2 comes downstairs & starts fishing in the kitchen drawer:

"What are you after?"
"I need scissors"
"You have scissors in your room"
"Where?"
"Last I saw them was on your desk"
"They aren't there anymore"
"Well go look for them"
"I can't find them"
"Well you aren't taking anything else into your room to lose in that tip you call a bedroom"

My mum feels the same about me lol. My room is a tip but in my defense in a 6ft by 10ft room I have a double bed, 2 wardrobes, chest of drawers, a bedside table and dressing table. Also everything I own is in my room (apart from shoes and coats) I just don't have the space for anything. Hence atm I have a 4ft high pile of stuff at the bottom of my bed.

I also eat etc and spend all my time in my room which equals a good binbag of rubbish a week lol.

I'm coming 23 in a couple of weeks btw lol. So my verdict YABU but really your not lol.

My dc share a big room. Im pretty ruthless with toys etc. Its still a mess everyday and requires daily tidying. The most effective way is to put all the mess in a pile in the middle of the room and give them 15/30 mins to put it all away properly. Anything not put away goes in the bin.

If i don't pile it up they seem not to be able to see what needs doing -this way it seems to actually get done

My DD5 is like a little mini hurricane that storms through the house, causing mess wherever she goes, shes learning to clean up now, as she normally leaves me boobytraps.

That exchange sounds mightily familiar Enfy

Honestly? Massive super sized toy box, throw everything in it of a night then do a quick Hoover

That's the only way I can deal with DSs mess (6, has autism)

My 7 year old has a similar room, I have been in and cleaned out a lot while she was in school, thrown out all kinds of rubbish. I went in this morning and it looks the same as before I started cleaning it

By Tuesday afternoon it'll be bad enough to lose a small child in.
She has a toy box and a set of shelves with boxes on, each has different toy sets in and yet the mess is overwhelming. She also has a lot less toys than her friends.

i think it is due to him being 6...

I have 4 DC's capable of creating a bomb site in any room they enter within the space of minutes. The eldest is nearly 16 and she's the worst! I just can't wait for my 10 wk old to join in

Is there a website that our DC's are going on to swap messiness tips? DS (12) is the same, layers of shite all over the place and clothes taken off and jut left there.
He is getting better though, he lost some homework and got detention for it so is at least making an effort to be a bit tidier!