To be fed up about all the threads....

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that feature twats who are people's 'D' P who are behaving like selfish idiots, it's Christmas if they can't behave at this time of year, I wonder what they're like the rest of the year, makes me glad I'm a single mother who only has my son to think about.

My DH is also not perfect. But neither am I. People do seem to come down on these partners very harshly. We're all capable of being unreasonable and selfish. I know I am. But Christmas is a stressful time. Everybody wants things to be perfect as in TV ads but it isn't always.

I think they are sat there in tears because Xmas magnifies everything? Maybe?

The smallest thing going wrong is more of a drama

So why don't you go and post supportive messages on those threads with practical advice about leaving and reassurance that it's fine to be on your own?

Posting "Why does anyone put up with it" when you, yourself, put up with it (past tense) and went through that stage of being unhappy but not unhappy enough to consider leaving before you did leave, you could have some empathy - it takes some people longer than others.

Are people just trying it on or are they desperate do you think?

Problem DD1 told me her work have cocked up her wages and so she can't buy presents as they can't pay her til 28th.

I don't know if it's true or not. I sent her £100 of love to shop vouchers last week to buy something for herself and her DH. (as well as a couple of gifts). I don't like to think she's got no money but I'm inclined to think the worst of her and that she's lying.

But there's moaning which is normal and acceptable and there's sat in tears, surely the latter isn't normal

But agai. You are only hearing one side. Someone who actually sees the situation may feel the op is the unreasonable one and blown it out of proportion.

downtown it's tricky isn't it!? I would be checking Facebook to see if she posts anything to give herself away!! There do seem to have been a lot of begging threads.... I hid them all early on, have they all turned bad?

I have blocked her on FB. It's a long story.

On the one hand I know life is tough and she is struggling. That makes me sad. On the other she has got herself into this position and needs to struggle to appreciate that these are the consequences of her actions.

I could, if I wanted, pay all her bills and make life easy for her, but that is not the answer. I won't see her starve or homeless, of course, but I can't keep bailing her out.

There is a lot of support on here I do not reply to every thread where someone needs support and tend to more with those I have a better undestanding of but everyone needs to have a little moan at times

christmas brings a lot of stress for many people and it should be an enjoyable time but everyone I know is dealing with some sort of family issue which is sad