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AIBU?

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to be annoyed with my boss?

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quicknamechange5029 · 21/12/2012 22:57

So part of my job is to book stock out on the system. I can only book the stock out after it has been physically delivered for various reasons so the only way I know where stock has gone is if the delivery driver, who is also my director, actually notes it down on the paperwork, which out of about every ten deliveries he'll forget once (so about 10% of the time). This has caused problems this week with three stock lines which he has had to help me sort.

I've mentioned to him several times I'm having problems because of this, I've asked him to tell me before he goes out to give me a list of what he is taking so that when he gets back I can work out by elimination what has gone where etc, but he has refused.

So last night I stayed 3 1/2 hours late and did a lot of work outside my job description etc. Before I left I let him know I hadn't been able to book his paperwork the next day as the stock wasn't there on the system. I asked him three times if he wanted me to stay and sort it out but he kept telling me it would be fine as he wouldn't be going out until after I got in so I could sort it in the morning.

When I got in in the morning he'd left me a note to say he'd sorted the stock on the system found 8 items which had not been booked out and straightened them and taken out the deliveries.

When he got in he basically had a go at me for the stock not being correct on the system, told me how he'd had to stay late to sort it out. He kept saying "I've been able to take out all the stock, do you understand all the stock" like somehow I was too thick to understand both his note and him saying it the first time.

He then faffed around in the office for about an hour moaning how he had a headache and "it wasn't really a suprise" and how he was going to get home late "and it wasn't on" in a really sarcastic tone of voice. He wasn't saying it to me but as I was the only one in the office and he sits right next to me it was clearly aimed at me.

When I went down to the toilet the phone rang and I had to race up the stairs to answer it because he refused to answer it even though he was sat practically next to it and could have at least picked it up and taken as message. Especially bearing in mind when he wasn't feeling well the other day I made him divert some calls to me to deal with after I should have gone home so that he didn't have to answer them.

When I gave him the post he decided it wasn't important and threw it on the floor for me to pick up and deal with, even though I was right next to him.

He then went off complaining about how long his route was as if it was my fault, though I hadn't made him stay in the office for that hour, and he knew his route was that long all week and had been telling me it was fine.

He has had to put in long hours this week but both myself and the other director advised him to get an agency driver in because there was no way he was going to have time to get all his deliveries done within normal hours and deal with the other stuff only he can deal with but he refused to.

AIBU to be annoyed, partly at him having a go at me for something that is untimately his fault, partly for him throwing things on the floor for me to pick up instead of passing them to me like he usually does, and partly for blaming me for his long hours when there is nothing I can do about it?

Oh and to add the icing to the cake after having a go at me he handed me some paperwork with 8 items not noted down so I can't allocate them on the system, here we go again...

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WhoPutTheDickOnTheSnowman · 21/12/2012 23:06

YANBU.

Can the other director discuss this with him as a management issue?
What is the HR situation?

If it's quite informal I would, and have, tell him to stop it and say you would work to job description only if he didn't.
If it is more formal or a slighlty fraught relationship (he sounds a bit knobbish) then I would proceed through HR - what is the answer to your claiming your overtime pay /time in lieu for the delays he causes? Nothing like a tight boss to get them moving quickly.

If it is recent, stressy xmas stuff then grit your teeth, curse him silently and look forward to any time off and seek redress after the holiday rush. If it is long standing then I would complain as it really isn't on. He is a twit - this may be stress it may be twattery - it's not your problem and you should expect a certain standard of respectful behaviour in your work place.

AgentZigzag · 21/12/2012 23:46

Basically I thought the same as Snowman, reading the OP.

He sounds as though he could be stressed, especially with you saying he wouldn't get an agency driver in, and just generally ranting at whoever was near.

And if he's not normally like this you could probably just put it down to pre-Christmas twattism.

BUT, that doesn't excuse him treating you like shit and leaving you feeling under a cloud when you've worked bloody hard for them and gone the extra mile.

DH has a boss like this, there are two partners who own the company and one of them can be really rude and just rant at people randomly. Luckily DH is the type who can just let it wash over him, and after a short while the boss is fine and everything's back to normal. DH just sees it as the type of person he is and doesn't take it personally.

See, I couldn't do this Grin I would be mortified and feel crushed and on edge wondering where I stood all the time.

Did the other director see him treat you like this? If he didn't why didn't he intervene?

What do you feel like doing about it?

quoteunquote · 22/12/2012 00:28

when someone behaves like a child, treat them like a child,

when he speaks to you, only respond if he is polite,

remind him of his manners,

and if he starts to complain that things are not done, explain in a patient kind voice why that might be.

He shouldn't be behaving like this towards you, trouble is you are letting him get away with it.

I hope it gets better soon.

LRDtheFeministDude · 22/12/2012 00:32

YANBU, he sounds really rude. Throwing things around is really shitty and unprofessional.

quicknamechange5029 · 22/12/2012 12:16

Thank you all for answering and making me feel a bit better. The other director (M) didn't see this happen and when I tried to bring it up I got an "oh that's what he's like" which is not a huge help. M does have the same issues with this drector (A) and A has issues with M. Neither of them will confront each other they just both moan to me whilst I try to stay noncommital. There is no HR its a very small company and everything is ver informal. It is partly stress making A behave like this but the trouble is M and I have both tried to confront A about his workload and he refuses to do anything about it because he won't spend the money on extra wages. We are supposed to be expanding so this is going to be a continual issue until A recognises that there is a problem. So although I am prepared to brush this off as a stress of the moment kind of thing I am worried in case it keeps happening as we get busier.
With the extra hours I have been promised them back as they won't pay overtime but I will have a struggle to get them back. There is only A to cover my job when I am off and so when I have tried to book holiday it is never convienient. I've only worked here simce august and I had four days holiday to take. He keeps prevaricating about when I could take them until the end of november and then told me it was company policy no one could take holiday in December. I managed to get two days booked off spread over as half days and got him to agree to let me carry two days over. It is all starting to get a bit frustrating to be honest

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