To not provide ALL the food for Christmas

[ChristmasKnackers]

I have the MIL coming for Christmas Day. She can't eat anything... Dairy, gluten, nuts, seeds and hates meat thats cut too thick!

Whilst I will be providing the whole meal, I haven't included Free From Mince Pies, Christmas cakes etc etc.

IS that tight?

you have invited a guess to dinner but refuse to cater for their dietary needs ...I think yab a bit U

You should ask her if there is any special food she would like and try to get it for her... Unless she is a crappies mil in which case don't bother

How much other stuff are you thinking you should get?

You have to get her some form of gluten free Christmas dessert if you are getting them for everyone else.

As Snog says. Otherwise, I think it'd be a nice gesture to maybe get her one 'speciality' thing on her list - like mince pies or christmas cake - after all, she'll prob be the only one eating it...

I think that there is a balance to make, I'm assuming that she can eat the majority of the main course? If so, it shouldn't be that much hardship to provide her with a suitable dessert? You should accomodate her needs, but equally if she cannot eat some foods and is fussy about others (thinly sliced meat??? just eat it, smile and say delicious) she has to make some concessions.

How many are you cooking for? If its not many, you should make more of an effort to accomodate her? Does she appreciate the effort?

You can't invite someone and not provide food that they can eat. Surely you can get some GF mince pies or christmas cake or something?

Most family dynamics these would include the guest offering to bring something significant at such an expensive time as Christmas. Even if she offered to bring X bottles of wine, as the host you should provide her with appropriate foodstuffs for intollerances - I wouldn't however include 'faddy eaters' that.

Faddy = doesn't like a food

Holly - yes exactly. Intolerance/allergy is a different thing IMO.

As a wheat intolerant person I wouldn't expect FF goods - but it's nice if people go to the trouble. That said, FF stuff can be hit and miss so it's a good idea to ask for recommendations/favourites in advance :)
I recommend mrs crimbles stuff for sweet things and have bought sainsburys mince pies and morrisons FF Christmas pudding for myself

She's not crappy, just a bit bonkers, but she will be the only one eating free from stuff. Maybe just some mince pies.

By the way, the whole meal is gluten/dairy free pretty much! It was just all the other bits. She tends to carry bits around with her in handbag.

Oh, and the bisto in glass jars (aah bisto) is gluten free btw :)

My df is gluten and lactose intolerant. I make gravy with meat juices and stock thickened with corn flour so can eat all of my dinner except stuffing and sausage meat which i cook in a separate meat pan. I suppose i could get gluten free stuffing or sausages for the pigs in blankets , - am i a bad host ive never thought about it? Other than that not at all fussy about meat or veg so eats the rest of the dinner.

He brings his own deserts, bread, mince pies, soy milk lactose free cream etc as he's fussy what he likes (apparently lots of g free bread and cakes are vile) and some of the nicer items are difficult to obtain.

He's happy to do this as we provide everything else. Also he only comes for the day so its really not worth me buying packs of stuff that won't be used up or stuff he really doesn't like. It's not cheap either esp if its something she won't eat.

As long as youve got a dinner with a nice cut of meat she can eat If you get on with her ok ask her to bring her own stuff ie a desert a mince pie and a few slices of bread. Obviously it's different if she's staying for more than a day or so.

Thanks guys - have a recipe for GF/DF mince pies, might give it a go.

My DM is gluten intolerant. She can have most of the main meal and has offered to bring an alternative to xmas pudding that everyone can have some of (in addition to the xmas pudding we are providing). We have also ordered some GF biscuits for tea as they have good customer reviews on Ocado. We aren't buying GF mince pies, xmas cake or pudding as DM would prefer that we not put ourselves out too much when there is plenty she can eat and also these are often disgusting.

M&S have gluten free products for Christmas
health.marksandspencer.com/our-health-ranges/xmas-made-without-wheat