To not change my cousins Christmas present because it's classed as clothes?

[JuliesSistersCousinsAuntsCat]

I have bought my 7yr old cousin lovely pink knitted Boden hat complete with bow for Christmas. I don't know her very well but I do know she likes pink and I thought it was appropriate for this time of year. I also don't have a lot of money.

Told my DM what I bought and she said 'well done, your uncle hates clothing as presents for her (cousin) as he thinks they are a necessity him and his ex (cousins mum) should buy, not a gift'.

Tough shit I say. I think it's a lovely hat and hopefully she'll like it. AIBU to think it's fine and ignore my uncle?

The present is from you to your cousin so ignore him.

Its not about what he likes it's about what your cousin likes. If they are going to complain don't send anything!

they may buy her all she needs in clothing but it is sometimes nice to have something extra, isn't it? I would say it is more an accessory than an item of clothing and I agree with viper. I think it is a nice present.

it is for your little cousin not him unless he wants to wear a pink hat with a bow on it get some santa chocolate or 'something' to put in but id give it, bet she will love it,

Should be thankful for any gift, even if it is a necessity.

I love it when people buy dd clothes as a gift (as long as I like them - she's only 16months so she doesn't really have an opinion about it yet) for exactly the same reasons your uncle doesn't . Gps are getting her winter coat for us.

Anyway, hats are an accessory not clothing anyway so fine imo. I say your present sounds lovely

Thank you! I do happen to have some glittery/flowery nail art stickers (no idea how or why!) so I'll wrap those up with it.

Sorry to add to the million other Xmas threads!

a nice hat is like a nice scarf isn't it not exactly a need . but a nice thing to wear

that sounds lovely

I would tell your uncle to swivel and happily give the hat to your cousin

of course yanbu. Most little girls love fun and pretty gifts, much nicer than when you buy what is functional.

Yanbu at all.

It sounds lovely.

I think what you've bought sounds a lovely present. My dd (age 7) would like it.

It's not really the same as buying everyday clothes - it's something pretty that she'll like to dress up in.

my kids are getting LOADS of things they NEED - PJs, socks, slippers, new duvet sets

ignore - she will love it!

HoHo you have made me smile. Haven't heard anyone been told to swivel since I was at school -a very long long time ago

sounds like there is a political undercurent going on here between your uncle and his ex spous - stay well out of it and give whatever presents you like to your cousin.

If you were buying her vests, knickers and socks I could understand it, but a nice hat doesn't really come into the same category. I would put it on a par with a small gift of jewellery and such.

It sounds lovely. Good for you op.