Would you be pissed off?

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Yes me again!

Last night I went to bed at 9pm with a hangover from my works doo.
Sunday night I didn't get to bed until midnight as I stayed up drinking wine and watching Geordie shore

So last night Dh decides to cut his hair at 9.30 and I shouted at him saying I didn't want him in and out the bedroom.
He shouted quite nastily that if I wasn't an alcoholic I wouldn't need to be in bed at 9.
So for that lovely comment I refused to cut his hair!
And then he starts shouting that I am a 'psycho'

I'm not even bothered, in pretty numb to it now.

Does anyone think this is totally unreasonable behaviour?

Ins and outs of the situation aside, if you put up with so much crap that you have to "numb" yourself with it then you should stop complaining, because it will never, ever improve.
Sorry if that sounds harsh, I don't "know" you as a poster but your post implies you've posted often about unhappiness in your relationship. So why do you stay in it? You deserve better.

Is he usually such a twat? Hardly an alcoholic after one night out? As for calling you a psycho for not cutting his hair? Complete child.

He sounds pretty unpleasant.

I can appreciate it was annoying for him being told he couldn't cut his hair when he wanted to, just because you have a hangover (so you were unreasonable on that front) but his response was waaaay OTT.

Oh I didn't mind him cutting his hair I just didn't want the in and out the bedroom can you check this bit, can you trim that bit nonsense!

Well it's two nights of drinking but no I don't think that makes me an alcoholic either

Mmm. You did start out by shouting at him you didn't want him in the bedroom! Why would you do that?!

I think if you go to bed as early as 9pm you can't be terribly surprised if you get woken up and it doesn't sound as if he was doing it on purpose - he just wanted to cut his hair.

He was obviously BU to call you names, but your reaction first would have got me in a pretty foul mood too.

Sounds like a normal row between a couple, you shouted at him for doing something pretty reasonable, he shouted back at you, both of you are pissed off. You both went OTT. I'd be over it by now I think.

Sounds like a normal row between a couple,
Yes but this:
I'm not even bothered, in pretty numb to it now.
implies there's a history of rowing an unpleasantness.

I'm unsure why most of the posters have said he is a twat and putting the blame on him.

I agree Stuff it does sound like there is a history of rowing and unpleasantness but nothing in the post suggests to me its one sided, he may very well say the same about being numb to being shouted at.

you both sound like you were spoiling for a row. I hate it when my dh drinks which thankfully is very rarely and not to the point of being drunk - 2 nights drinking doesnt make you an alcoholic unless he has other reasons to suspect there is a problem.

You sound as bad as each other!

Without a back story it sounds very tit for tat to be honest.

Some men often pull put the 'psycho' card. Whenever a man tells me his ex is a psycho I immediately think 'really? Or were you just a cunt?'

My DP did this recently and I came down like a tonne of bricks. It was completely unecessary, considering Id buckled under pressure of keeping all the shit together for everyone. He appologised after I reminded him.

With the 'alcoholic' comment, I dont know if YABU because you mentioned 2 drinking times, are there many others? Or is he just being a plank?