to be fucking raging at the ex-husband

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Ex-h lives about 1.5 miles away. Has done for about 8 months now.

He had the kids overnight last night and took them to school/nursery this morning, picks them up from school/nursery and brings them home to me at 7pm for bed.

Just to set the scene, we currently have severe weather warnings and localised flooding, being told not to go out if not necessary.

So, despite having a bus stop almost on his doorstep, he made the kids WALK to school this morning - DC1 had to sit in her wet clothes, but DC2 was given a change of clothes to wear from nursery. He then walked DC2 back to his after nursery, then back to the school to pick up DC1 at school home time. After dinner, he WALKED them back home to me. It has pissed down with rain all last night, and all day today and is still going strong. They have spent the best part of the day soaked through.

I asked why he didn't get a bus and his answer was "Because I don't know when the fucking buses are, do I?" I honestly wanted to fucking swing for him.

Surely he should have gotten a bus (He should actually know the rough timetable by now, considering he often gets the bus from home. Or he could have looked it up either online or on his phone, or even bloody phoned me and asked me to check!) or god forbid, put his hand in his pocket and forked out a fiver for a fucking taxi!!!

Just so I'm not drip-feeding, both DC currently have upper respiratory tract infections. (I know being cold and wet doesn't make you ill, but a 1.5 mile walk when ill is not appealing at the best of times, never mind during one of the worst periods of weather we've had all year!)

So if it was you having the kids and it was raining you would have got a taxi every single time.Cause i know i wouldnt and i have my kids out in all weathers.
He did the best he could do its more important he actually wants to see them not its a bit wet out.

Um...OP I make my kids walk the mile and a half to school and nursery and back in ALL weathers because I don't have a car and there IS no bus.

Here is a grip...you might find it useful.

Love the use of upper respiratory tract infection as a phrase - eg, cold or sore throat.

If they are poorly they should have stayed at home.

Upper respiratory tract infection, otherwise known as the common cold.

My 6 year old and I walk this distance to school and back every day. (No car for me, no direct bus, it's across a village on local paths) Today was deeply unpleasant with strong winds and lashing rain, but we both had hats, gloves, waterproof jackets, waterproof trousers on over our trousers, boots. Ds arrived at school dry and comfortable. Good clothing makes such a difference. Were the kids dressed for the weather or had it started after they went to their dads? Would he keep them home if poorly or would he send them in no matter what?

Stupid to walk all that way getting the kids so wet when they were ill.

People can be very ignorant about the cold/wet. It is true that getting cold/wet will not make them ill because a germ is needed for that, whatever the weather conditions. However, as they are already ill, getting cold and wet for an extended period of time will definitely hamper their recovery. Their bodies need to devote resources to getting better but if they are cold/wet, these resources won't be used to get better, they'll be used to try and keep the body warm.

YANBU, the fact that he took them out with inappropriate clothing and they sat at nursery/school wet through is thoughtless.
I think it's a reasonable expectation to walk that distance (whatever the weather), but be equipped.

oh, is that what it is? I thought it must be a chest infection / bronchitis or something!

Is it really just the sniffles?

Yup hect just a sniffle.

But a very clever ploy from the OP to get posters to sympathise with her rather than ex.

He is being silly not to check the timetable when the bus stops outside his door and rather daft to make them sit in wet colds when they have a cold. I'd talk to him about it when you have calmed down a bit.

clothes not colds

Do they not have waterproof coats?