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AIBU?

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Original poster

to send DD1 to school tomorrow?

28 replies

ginmakesitallok · 20/12/2012 19:50

DD1 has been out of sorts all afternoon. She was sick at about 5.30. Had a bath, went to bed at 6.45. She is desperate to go to school tomorrow as they've got a Christmas thing she doesn't want to miss.

If she's not sick tonight, and if she's OK in the morning WIBU to send her to school? I've got an emergency dentist appointment at 8.30, DP was meant to be off but has to got into work (so is going to take DD2 with him). Life would be easier if DD1 at school, but we could arrange for MIL to have her if needs be.

WWYD?

OP posts:
BiteyWeeFucker · 20/12/2012 19:52

YABU, 24 hours at least after vomiting.

cardibach · 20/12/2012 19:53

THere should be at least 24 and preferably 48 hours between sickness and returning to school, so you shouldn't send her I don't think. You could be responsible for other children being ill over CHristmas.

RaspberryLemonPavlova · 20/12/2012 19:53

Not send her. Sorry. All the 48 hour rules are there for a reason and she will be passing the infection on to other people just in time for Christmas

SetPhasersTaeMalkie · 20/12/2012 19:53

YABU

She could pass it on to another pupil.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 20/12/2012 19:55

YABU. Keep her home and don't spread the bugs further.

OddBoots · 20/12/2012 19:56

How would you feel if another parent sent their child in then your dd caught this just in time for Christmas?

BsshBossh · 20/12/2012 19:56

YABU. If it's the vomiting bug and you send her to school she may ruin a few of her classmates' Christmasses.

Our school has a 48 hour rule about D&V.

minibmw2010 · 20/12/2012 19:56

YABVU. Arrange for MIL to have her, imagine if she makes all the other children ill just before Christmas. If it was another child possibly making yours unwell I assume you'd be furious? Do the right thing.

curmit · 20/12/2012 19:57

yes YABU. You shouldn't even need to ask.

kinkyfuckery · 20/12/2012 19:59

To go against the grain, is she actually showing signs of being ill, other than the vomitting? If not, I'd send her in. Could she have been sick due to nerves/excitement?

happierwithgin · 20/12/2012 20:01

You have children....life is not meant to be easy. Get MIL to watch her while you go to the dentist. Do not send her to school, even if she wants to go...sometimes being a parent means saying no.

pigletmania · 20/12/2012 20:01

Yabvu don't send her, could soread bugs and ruin another child's christmas

goldenlula · 20/12/2012 20:01

YABU, it is a shame she will miss out but the risk is she could pass n the germs and spoils Christmas for many others. I would definitely arrange for mil to have her.

Original poster
ginmakesitallok · 20/12/2012 20:04

75% of kids already off Sad. I don't think it's norovirus - only sick once, no diahroea (sp?), just very tired. Anyway - MIL phoned, both will get dropped of with her on way to dentist. (And fingers crossed we don't ALL come down with it!)

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Ilovesunflowers · 20/12/2012 20:07

Yadbu. It's not fair to pass it on to other children and their teachers at Xmas. It could then pass on to their families. Your dd might be pissed off but that's life.

Christmassparkles · 20/12/2012 21:03

If she is not sick tonight and well in the morning then send her. Flame me iF u like but I have always done this, if a child is sick once and then well- they tend to be ok.

Floggingmolly · 20/12/2012 21:06

Don't ruin everybody else's Christmas by infecting the whole class. Hmm

IHeartKingThistle · 20/12/2012 21:25

Don't you dare!

OnlyWantsOne · 20/12/2012 21:26

please please dont send her in

RobinsBaubleSparkles · 20/12/2012 21:33

Don't send her in! It's not worth the risk if it's a bug and another child gets it over Christmas and I doubt the teacher would be impressed if she/he got sick either.

My DD1 had a bit of diarrhoea on Tuesday night. She had a tummy ache when she got home from school, it happened then and then nothing since. It was unlikely to be a bug as it was just a one off, possibly something that she ate that day but I kept her off today and yesterday as school policy is 48 hrs after diarrhoea or vomiting.

EndoplasmicReticulum · 20/12/2012 21:49

YABU. I would not be impressed if your child infected mine just before Christmas.

Heifer · 20/12/2012 22:14

I had someone come along to my DD birthday party today (9 yr old) who had been sick the night before and was then sick at the party! I wasn't impressed especially when I phoned the parents to ask them to collect her and they asked if she wanted to come home... No, but you need to collect her as we have other children here, even then the other parent phoned me asking if she wanted to come home. I really wanted to shout I don't care what you are doing come and get her! Felt so sorry for the child and other parents were not amused when they found out.. Hope others don't catch it, we all had the Norovirus here 3 weeks ago and it was horrid!

Heifer · 20/12/2012 22:16

meant to add so bottom line is even though the girl had been sick around 6.00pm previous evening and then nothing all morning, at 2.00pm she was sick again so don't assume she hasn't got the virus if she isn't sick again for a while.

Hope she feels better soon

cinnamonnut · 20/12/2012 22:16

it's probably best not to if she genuinely appears ill, but if she's only been sick once, and seems fine...

better safe than sorry I suppose though.

Floggingmolly · 20/12/2012 22:22

It's unbelievable, isn't it? Heifer? I had that at a party a few years ago, kids were 6/7, and I absolutely insisted the child was collected immediately, made no bones about it, and...

the parents didn't even show up at the party finish time, they were actually 40 minutes late. Some people are just ignorant arses.