and really precious about son's first visit to see Father Christmas?

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Ex's parents plan on taking our son to see Father Christmas this weekend. I wanted to be there when he went for the first time, aib stupidly precious? Or should I run son down to see Father Christmas before they do?

Thing is son seems pretty petrified of Santa. He is only 3 & says he doesn't want to see him. Was going to take him next year. Could tell them not to take him, but they would ignore and take him anyway.

Go with them. Sorted!

You want to take to do something you know he will hate so you get in there first?

I'd be more concerned with the fact they are taking your son somewhere he doesn't want to go rather than you 'missing out' tbh. I can't understand why anyone would want a crying picture of their GC with Santa. Just say No.

chrismissy I'm obviously not going to take him if he hates it just so I can get in there first. I'm not a massive twat.

It is something I would like to be there for. I would rather take him when he is ready. However he may get there, see all the other kids excited and decide he does want to see him. Whatever, I want to be the person who takes him for the first time.

Tell them he doesn't want to go and that he's a bit scared of him which is the truth.

Yanbu - it should be u or his dad taking him for the first time unless your not bothered about gp taking him but you are so say no not this year make a big deal of it or suggest something else for them to do

Am pretty sure they are going to make out that I'm being completely unreasonable. Oh well, they'll have to lump it.

I know what you mean I want to be the first person to take dd to see him ( she is only 8mo so got a while yet) so i would tell them straight that you want to take him, he is your son after all.

Also if you think he will be scared, it's probably best he goes with you anyway.

Bloody grandparents why do they think they have a say in what we do with our kids?!

Well tbh i found it a massive let down. My ds is 3 and like yours not impressed with santa at all. Clung to my leg, wouldn't speak, wouldn't take the pressie or pose for a photo.

I'd let him go and take him next year and enjoy it!

Still don't understand why you don't just go all together ?

Would they ignore 'please don't take ds to see FC as he's scared of him and I don't want to scare him unnecessarily. Let's wait until he's a bit older and will enjoy it?'

If so, then to be honest, I'd rather not let them look after him on that particular day if their need to take their gc to see FC outweights his feelings.

TBH, it's all really underwhelming - there won't be any face lighting up or huge excitement, just shyness and possibly a few tears. I'd explain that I'm not sure he'll enjoy it and you don't understand why they'd want to stand in a massive queue to do something that's likely to upset him, but that you trust them to see how it goes at the time and put his feelings first if he shows any signs of upset. Which presumably you do, as you're letting them take him out.

Don't worry about missing out on a precious moment, because you won't be.