To think electric toothbrush heads are a really shit christmas present?

[WhenSantaGotStuckUpACunnyFunt]

Because that's what we've got 20yo BIL. We had a budget of £10 for each BIL and we had the younger one sorted but had no idea about the older one. He has loads of clothes, not interested in music (if he was he'd just download what he wanted), any films he wants he just downloads, he has tonnes of car cleaning stuff, he doesn't collect anything or have a hobby.

MIL has bought him an electric toothbrush for christmas so she gave us the spare heads pack for it to give to him. I'm just pissed off that it isn't anything better than that. Last year we got him a frigging alarm clock because he needed one!

I mean really, who the bloody chuff wants toothbrush heads for christmas???

Freaking hell....get him some diazepam

Freaking hell....get him some diazepam

He blows up at the slightest thing. Weirdly though he is fantastic with kids (apart from the above), no matter how irritating they can be (for eg a screaming baby that won't stop), he just keeps his cool and doesn't lose his rag or anything!

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Wow, just read your latest.

His tantrums could be meltdowns. Or they could be tantrums, but given his lack of social skills, his obsession with his car etc, it could that he genuinely is undiagnosed.

I am sure a more ASD experienced person than me will be able to tell you, but it does sound a bit unusual.

That is a shit resent it really is, how abut some booze and choccies, can't go wrong Wth that great combination

I don't know could by undagnosed Aspergers or something like that. The meltdowns do Sound quite telling

For goodness sake don't get him an electric toothbrush - that implies he's got some kind of hygiene issue, which even if it might be true isn't a pleasant thing to imply.

There is no shame in just giving him money.

Also, those temper tantrums are not run-of-the-mill ones, so take him to a health professional, I reckon.

You may think what's the point of a dx as an adult, but there might be support groups that pil could join and stuff that bil could access that make him happier.How you would bring that up though I don't know: probably something your dh should initiate.

That's the thing though, I don't think I could bring it up without causing huge rows. MIL may be mostly lovely but she's always right. She has huge issues with SIL (eldest BILs partner) now after SIL told her to do things differently with him, because the way she was doing it was causing all these meltdowns/tantrums. So it's a bit of a sore area to visit.