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AIBU to leave DPs crap on his side of the bed?

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ItsALongWayToPickAWilly · 19/12/2012 18:41

I'm looking for honest answers please.
I'm a sahm so I do 95% of the childcare of our son and 90-95% of the housework. DP works full time running his own company.

DP likes to leave his clothes from the day before laying on the bedroom floor, he'll also leave other bits and bobs laying around the house. When he empties his car of rubbish he'll clear half of it away and then leave the rest for the cleaning fairy.

I have always dealt with this by putting all his crap he can't be arsed to pick up down his side of the bed (it's next to the window so out of my sight there). He's now starting to get really moany about it and wants me to clear it up for him. I've refused point blank.
I'm not the tidiest of people myself, some days I can be a bit messy, other days everything is spotless except his side of the bed

Should I be putting his stuff away for him? He does work hard and I do feel bad for him, but I don't want to get in to the trap of being his person cleaner.

AIBU?

OP posts:
SleighbellsRingInYourLife · 19/12/2012 19:47

Hold the line, OP

You are doing all the housework.

Tidying up after him is not housework.

It is being a skivvy.

And no able bodied adult should be asking someone else to do it.

It is a basic matter of respect.

Pilgit · 19/12/2012 19:54

Up at 5.30 home by 6pm? This makes him the hardest working person...? WTF? when I'm not on mat leave my normal day is up at 5.30 home at 7pm. Put DC to bed, log back on again. Oh and i do at least half the housework.... tell him to get a reality check and pull his finger out.

We have a rule in our house (we are both messy people) if it's not in the washing basket it doesn't get done. My mum was a SAHM and had the same rule. Dad didn't have an issue and he put in a LOT more hours at work than your DH (city lawyer - we called him 'the man in the photograph' and only partially meant it as a joke).

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