Aibu to miss friends birthday

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Have sent my friend a card and present in post- it's her 27th birthday on 2nd jan she's just text to see if I can come to meal. I'll be 37 weeks pregnant then and dont feel i'd be up to a meal out- big Indian restaurant in town centre at night. Ive said no as I'll be ready to drop but now I feel bad Aibu?

YANBU - hopefully she'll understand, given that you'll be 37 weeks pregnant. Better to let her know that you won't be up to it now, than to drop out a few hours before the meal.

Can you maybe meet up with her near her birthday during an afternoon or suchlike when you'll feel less tired?

YANBU. She's an adult, she'll get over it.

Tell her you're worried the curry will wend you into labour as you are so heavily pregnant

Yanbu. You'll be shattered and I think she should just deal with it, you could have lunch at her house a few days later or something? Has she reacted badly to the refusal or are you just feeling guilty? She could have just invited you as she didn't want you to feel left out, but didn't expect you to go?

I probably wouldn't. Cold, dark, possibly icy...nah, I'd rather be inside in the warm and the quiet!

YANBU. Its one of those things, even if you commit now you might feel awful on the day. Just be honest and tell her that you're not up to much, especially in the evening. Or maybe are they meeting for a drink before the meal that you could pop to? If not, make plans to see her at another time around her birthday. If she is a good friend then she will understand.

Nope, Yanbu. I am only 22 weeks but have had to pass on things for lack of oomph. At 37 weeks I really doubt I'll want to head out! Surely if you're feeling great on the night you can ask her to come?
Think of it this way - surely she has to ask you since you'd feel hurt if she didn't invite you....however, she probably isn't expecting you to come!

I'd go unless you feel too shattered at the time. Of course it's fine not to go if you do feel too tired. Could you say to save you a place but it depends on how you're feeling?

I was out in central London at 40 weeks pregnant having drinks till 2am (well, soft drinks for me) for a friend's birthday. This is a meal so it should be relatively sedate.

I actually had a brilliant time at the drinks and given that I had a baby who breastfed every 45mins for months on end, it was a fun time that I couldn't repeat for a long while.

But obviously you know yourself best. For me to refuse that invite would be unreasonable because I love meals out with friends and would make the effort because shortly I'd be unable to attend very much! For you, it might be totally reasonable as you could be too exhausted, which is fine too.

PS. Am 28 weeks pregnant with DS2. Taking every opportunity to go out for meals/drinks and have adult conversations as I know what awaits me this time. So possibly I am projecting a bit.....