To be fuming with dh

[rosanna1974]

6 weeks ago I was asked to go out with friends for a meal on 21st. Mentioned it to dh who said if I want to go he will look after kids but then said his work party that night but he isn't going because we are going on holiday early next morning- why don't we have a takeaway and watch a DVD. So I agreed. 2 days ago I heard him on the phone arranging to meet up for his Xmas party. When I questioned it he said he's only going for a few drinks and be home by 8.! Well I've heard 8 for last 15 years what he really means is he will stagger home pissed at 3 or 4. I am a sahm and rarely get to go out with friends. Wibu if he's not back by 8 take the kids to him and go out and for the meal.

You would be unreasonable , not to mention unfair on your dc's, to take the children to a works do just to prove a point to him.

Can you arrange a Sitter to mind the children and you go for the meal?

YANBU. I'd be annoyed if I'd altered my plans to spend the evening with my DH and he then went out, even if he did come back at 8.

I think i would point out to him what you said in your post about the last 15 years and that you rarely go out. He should cancel and let you go out. Or as sugar says get a sitter. I would be furious too!

It's not a works party as such it's a few lads he works with going out to the pub. I can't get a sitter for that night.

How old are your dc's?

12 and 8. Ds 21 but in uk.

Tricky! I'd be uncomfortable getting the children involved like that.

He is being selfish and I'd be miffed that he's already forgotten what he discussed with you.

Tell him to un arrange his night out.

Either you go out as you planned it first or you both have a takeaway as compromised on.