Am i or is he nye!

[tinselballballsandlights]

After not spending the last two years together for nye i really wanted to spend it with dp i asked him last night what we was going to do and he told me he already has a ticket for somwhere with his friends saying that he told me ages ago he didn't so i felt a bit upset as we haven't done anything together since august and he is always doing things with his friends.

So today i kicked up a fuss saying that it was special to me that we spent it together and he is point blank refusing to change his mind i am so hurt you wouldn't believe so i just told him after everything thats been happening with us the last few months he should want to aswell and i gave him an ultimatum me or his friends i have totally had enough of being put second.

So am i for giving him an ultimatum and wanting to spend time with him or should i just let it go.

Coke? That's how my wanker ex used to act. Out all night with mates, didn't give a crap about me.

yes yes and yes terrys

are these new friends that appeared in May or same friends as always?

he does smoke weed and always has since i've known him so heavier drugs possibly.

drugs featured with EXp too. said all the right things when we talked about it. i gave him the ultimatums and he made the 'right' choice (me and our baby) but it lasted a day each time and he would be back out with his mates.

some of them are new and some old but the new ones are alot younger say early to late twenties

what happened in May? you probably know somewhere in the back of your mind. if you sat and thought about it you'd probably come up with a bit of a picture.

Run like the wind. Sorry, but I am a million times happier now without the self-centred, gurning idiot in my life. Can you sit him down and get him to be honest about what is going on? Rather than a bunch of empty promises.

he's staying at mil tonight so i am going to talk to him tomorrow this really is breaking point i know it doesn't mean alot to some people but to me it does and if cannot see that then its very much over.

I've got to go, tinsel. Good luck. Maybe start a thread in Relationships for some good feedback.

thank you terrys i wasn't really looking for relationship advice but you lot dragged it out of me haha but we will see what happens tomorrow.

of course it means a lot. he's choosing bloody mates over his partner and children! the final straw isn't always some big crime committed. it's just the latest in a long line of things. mine was when EXp walked out of our antenatal class at the hospital to take a call from a friend. i had asked him earlier in teh day if we could spend that evening together after teh class as he had been spending all his time with mates. he agreed then he leaves to take the call, i came out after the class was over to find him. he tells me that was a mate he had agreed to take somewhere but totally forgot about when i talked with him earlier . i said "well what's more important?" he gave me a pleading look and said " i promised him" i said "fine it's your choice" so he dropped me home and i told him it was over. might seem like a stupid thing to finish with someone over but it was just a small part of a far bigger picture.

excatly i just cannot be put second best anymore it maybe a relitivley new thing but its not on he has let me down with such small things and this is just the last thing

no you cant and you shouldn't

he is a father and a partner. he has priorities. responsibilities to you and your dcs. you have talked to him before and he still behaves like a teenager. follow through on your ultimatum. plan for being alone from new year's eve. he may realise after a while what he's been doing to you. he may never realise. but eiether way, do not accept less than you are worth jsut to avoid being alone.

Tell him to stay at mils for good.

He's taking the piss.

You deserve better.

I don't think he will realise which is the worst part about it.