Horrible scary incident in the playground.

[BadDayAtTheOrifice]

I'd collected my girls from junior school and was walking through the playground towards the gate and noticed a boy on the ground screaming and clutching his knee. The headmaster appears and I notice the boys Dad is shouting 'You fucking little bastard' at a small boy.

He is shouting and screaming at this boy, the head has to step infront of this dad as the he looks like he wants to hit the boy, he's following him around, still shouting threats.
The small boy he is shouting at is obviously distressed. Another mother grabs him and and starts to walk him back into the school, the dad follows and they have to run into the school, crying and obviously scared. The head is doing his best to calm him down. We left then so don't know what happened, but I shall be thanking that mother. I hope everythings OK.

I am livid. It makes me so angry that some people think that this is OK. That poor, poor boy. Kids should be able to feel safe at school and not worried that someone else's dad is going to harm them physically. I feel sick. I feel angry. And sad.

Just needed to get that off my chest and have a vent. Thanks for listening.

It all sounds very horrible, but from your OP I can't work out which child was the son of the violent man, which child was the son of the mother...

I'm quite a placid person but if another child had just kneecapped my child leaving them screaming and clutching their knee I would struggle not to shout at them and call them all sorts..

Having said that, my first instinct would be to care for my child, not chase the 'perpetrator'.

Oh I think I misunderstood I thought the man had caused the injury and was shouting at his own son

Whatever had happened beforehand, nothing justifies a grown man shouting and swearing at a child

The man was in the wrong, that is clear.

If the child in question had been bullying his son, then the school is also at fault allowing it to continue. Sounds like there's a lot more to this than meets the eye.

Nothing justifies the swearing and intimidation.

One of the schools I worked at had parents banned from the playground due to parents assaulting other parents in the playground :(

You should have phoned the police. There is absolutely no excuse for that behaviour, none.

Sadly I didn't have my mobile with me. By the time I got home I thought the school would have dealt with it.

The parent would have faced a ban in my school for that sort of behaviour, whatever the provocation.

That type of behaviour is absolutely disgusting and I hope the incident is reported to the police and taken further. I think it is completely inappropriate to swear in front of children and to be aggressive towards a child too. I would put on a complaint about him to school and also would be prepared to act as a witness. Not only would I feel sorry for the child it was being directed at but also all the other children witnessing this behaviour.

And to all those trying to justify his behaviour I wonder what happens to his children at home when he loses his temper in front of them!

If the school were doing its job and preventing bullying early, then this kind of thing wouldn't happen.

One thing is for sure - the child who (perhaps) assaulted the other in the playground wont be doing it again any time soon. Caught in the act by a protective parent.

There's no evidence at all in the OP that child 1 actually did bully the injured child. He may have bumped into him, or tripped, or ran into him with his bike by accident. Or child 1 may have hit back after being bullied by the injured child. Certainly with a role model like that it wouldn't surprise me if that was the case. Of course I don't know that. But interesting that the speculation is all going one way.

Agree with you Wilson. I don't 'know' any of the people involved but have seen them around for years and you get an impression of people don't you. I certainly don't think the child being shouted at is a bully. Its certainly not the schools fault either.

When we had 2 mums have a cat fight in the school playground they were banned from school grounds and had to stand on the other side of the fence at collection time.

C.l.a.s.s.y

Dd and her friend had something similar happen to them from another girls parent. That parent was banned from school premesis and also had a visit from the police. We were asked if we wanted to press charges as it had got physical in our case. No excuse for it. In our case another girl had told her mum that dd,s friend was bullying her.

There wasn't any bullying, it was a case of twos company and threes a crowd. It's girl wanted to be friends with dd and was causing trouble. The head realised this. So be wary of what kids tell you is a lesson I've learned.

Dd is getting bullied a bit on the school bus now. All fairly minor, name calling, stuff been flicked/thrown at her. I wouldn't dream of screaming and swearing at the girls involved.

First off, it isn't acceptable to talk to a child in that way.

But. You don't know what the background is. If the other boy injured his child, it might not be the first time it's happened. He might be frustrated. He might think that that's the only way he can defend his son. It might be one of a long line of incidents. You don't know.

Hopefully the school will handle it.

This happened to my DS3 when he was in Y1.

DS2 (Y6) was playing an after school cricket match on the field. We parents sat down on a picnic blanket, watching. The smaller children were playing, half supervised by parents and half supervised by the after school club - makes us sound awfully feckless but the site was secure.

DS3 collided on his scooter with a girl skipping in a hoop. Totally unintentional. The father went dipshit, sersiously dipshit his princess had fallen over. Witness by the parents, the away team parents, a whole bunch of TAs.

I wrote to the Head.

The reply? 'keep your child under control or dont stay to watch sports events' -I know I was corroborated by other parents and TAs who said it was a no fault accident.

The Head was a total tosser anyway.

If hs child was being bullied I can understand it, and I don't care about the language tbh. If however he was just being horrible I hope the police get involved

It's not always black and white. Was in the playground one day and my friends son was knocked very roughly to the ground by another boy who has form for being rough. Her son was in a lot of pain with a huge chunk out of his knee while the other boy skipped merrily on. It was difficulty for her not to react in a strong manner especially as it wasn't the first time.

What on earth would he have done if nobody had stepped in.

No excuse at all for a grown man to behave like that to a young child.