aibu that friend will not give me a lift?

[cherrieontop]

Work Christmas party tonight.

It's been arranged for a while that friends partner would drive us there (and 2 other girls) so we could all have a drink.

Today she comes to my desk and says "Cherrie sorry we're not able to give you a lift tonight now because Sophie doesn't have any way of getting there."

I feel so upset, stupidly upset but I've tried to hide it.

If she'd told me a couple of days ago then fine, I could have arranged with someone else. But I feel extremely cheeky asking for lift from someone else now.

don't even consider sending an email.
'hi everyone. i had a lift to the party and now i don't. [sub-text: no-one likes me.] will you give me a lift?'
erm, no.

I'd not send an email either, far too embarrassing.

Get a cab.

do you really want to go to this party?

What a cow. Thats the sort of thing that would have me crying in the ladies like a schoolgirl.

If you dont want to send an email, then could you ask a few people discreetly or can you afford to spring for a cab?

Does her dh drive a motorbike and side car ? If not why does Sophie take up 3 spaces?

Bus in and taxi back. Or drive in and taxi back and pick your car up in the morning - you could book tomorrow off and have a day Xmas shopping :)

Ps YouTube friend is a batch - her deeply to Sophie should be sorry car is full.

Shit - bitch and reply not batch and deeply

The point is the OP was promised a lift and she was relying on it and looking forward to having a drink at the party. Now she has been let down. That just simply isn't fair. The person offering the lift should honour their promise and not offer the lift to somebody else. I'd be annoyed as well and wouldn't call this person much of a friend.

Why would anyone be embarrassed about needing a lift?

And you could send an email asking for a lift or offering to share taxis - don't mention being let down you can tell everyone when you're pissed and it isn't lost in translation of an email

Are the friend and Sophie really good friends - why would anyone do this?

Get a big group and arrange a 7 seater taxi- you''ll all have a laugh and a nice drunken Xmas group atmosphere.

peaceandlovebunny not having a lift doesn't equate to nobody liking you, that's bollocks

I would email round and ask for a lift

and be pissed off with colleague and bloody Sophie, how childish to do this!

So 'sophie' only decided yesterday to go, and your colleague just dropped you to take her?? WTF? That's really rude, and childish, what if someone who trumps sophie wants to come tomorrow?! Does Sophie get dumped on the kerb? I wouldn't want to go with them now anyway, is a cab possible?

I agree redhead, send an email, you will get loads of offers and make her look bad, if there isnt a convenient lift offer then ask a friend or family member for a lift there and a taxi back, make sure that you look and feel great then have a ball! that will show both Sophie and the lift revoking colleague that you are the better person, happy Christmas xx

Why is it embarrasing to ask if anyone has room in their car?

One of the other girls in the office knew I was a bit upset and has offered me a lift tonight.

Really nice of her.

But sort of not really looking forward to tonight.

Dress up and look fabulous and have a great time while ignoring other woman. You are obviously liked or the other person wouldn't have offered you a lift x

Oh yes, your colleague's behaviour will spread like wildfire without any effort on your part ...

Have a fab party cherrie.

YANBU that is really shitty of "friend" to dump you in favour of someone else

Oh dear, just remember most people from work are colleagues and not real "friends".

How do you get on with other people at work?

That's really shitty. I hope you can have a good night anyway.

Don't be too hard on Sophie - she might not know she's taken someone's space yet.

If she knows, they're both bitches!

How did the party go OP?

DON'T email the office saying you've been let down! Ackward!

Just get a taxi.