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AIBU not to send presents to these children? Or should I?

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ThatArtfulPussy · 18/12/2012 11:02

A fairly distant in-law relative of mine has children of a similar age. She's sent us Christmas presents for our DC. We barely see them - probably less than once a year on average. Our children don't need the presents, I seriously doubt hers do either. In the past, I have sent presents when hers arrive, and then have suggested when I saw her that we didn't do presents again as it's a bit of a waste of time (I have no idea what to get them, I have to get fairly generic "children of this age probably like this" things) and money (last year DS asked who "X and Y" were, he has no idea). I thought we had an agreement, but obviously not! My final straw is that I never get any kind of thank you, or even an acknowledgement they've arrived.

Bearing in mind the last day for Amazon super-saver delivery is tomorrow, do I buy them gifts this year or not? I will be sending a thank you after Christmas.

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SantaWearsGreen · 18/12/2012 11:13

I wouldn't bother because you have told her you didn't want to carry on sending gifts but she did anyway. Just thank her but don't send any back, she should get the message and stop sending in future.

BurningBridges · 18/12/2012 11:15

I'd say don't get them anything, and when you send the thank you note say something like "you've been so kind to get presents for DC but can I suggest we agree not to buy anything in future as I am sure we both have lots to buy over Christmas, big thanks ArtfulPussy x"

Worth a try - I have had friends/relatives who do that but find after a year or so of not reciprocating they get the message!

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