Should I still be angry at the way my ex Jehovah Witness "friend" treated me or not?

[bengal38]

I did Bible Studies in April 2011 with a Jehovah Witness woman for 8 months. She promised me she would support me but she didn't. My husband and my family found out and things went downhill quickly. I told my ex Jehovah Witness friend and she said to me what do you want me to do about it sort it out yourself. She turned me away at her door as well and when my husband threatened to kick me out of the house she just didn't seem bothered at all. I know this was almost 2 years ago but should I still feel angry at how she treated me. It was never my intention to become a Jehovah Witness I just wanted to find out about them and their beliefs and why they believe in them.

To be turned away at Jehovah's witness door. Now that is something.

Confused also.

Why did your husband want to kick you out? Is your friend ex-friend or ex-Witness? Did you become a Witness or were your family Witnesses and you stopped as a result of the Bible class?

To be honest was feeling depressed and down when she knocked on my door. Didn't really have a great relationship with my own mum but she was really easy to talk to and was really understanding as well. Suppose in a way I was looking to make new friends as well as didn't really have any. I saw her as a friend but I suppose to her I was just someone she met at the door trying to convert. I guess I was stupid and naive anyway.

I thought people turned Jehovah's Witnesses away from their door rather than turned up at theirs. Sorry to sound so glib but I think you are entirely missing the point. You were depressed and you wanted a mother/friend. Sounds like that to me. It's hard to be rejected but it would probably have led to a bad place. Forget her and try to make your life work in ways that suit you.

deck

I don't think the Jehovah's witnesses are the right people to befriend you at this time, and nor are any other religious group.

Me, my husband and our families are Greek Orthodox Christians who are opposed to the JWs. My husband isn't angry about it but I am angry with myself for allowing myself to be caught up with them in the first place. I do still see her around sometimes but to be honest with you I am angry because she knew I was in a vulnerable depressed state and she took advantage of that and also I am angry with myself for putting my husband and family through it all. When I turned to her for help I didn't want her to take me in and let me stay there I wanted her to not turn me away at the door and to tell me how to handle it and what to do. To be honest she was no help at all but I blame myself for going to her in the first place.

No, you should not still be angry.

She led you on and let you down, and you were quite rightly hurt.

But you need to try and move on now.

I think you should forgive yourself, and her.

She was on a mission to save her soul by making a convert. You probably needed the sort of help or counselling she simply couldn't give you. It's really difficult and a huge responsibility to tell someone, who's struggling, what to do.

Have you considered talking to your GP? I hope you find a wise friend or some help soon.

It's your husband that your anger should be directed at, not this woman.

I still don't really understand.

Ah, I can see why you are angry. She took advantage of your vulnerability to push her version of religion onto you, it caused a row with your family, and she didn't offer you any help when you asked.

That is all very sad but it was two years ago, it might be a good thing to resolve to forgive her (or let it go) and stop dragging all those negative emotions and thoughts around with you.

I understand your anger but think its time to let go. It's obviously not had a long term detrimental effecton you. I'd your still struggling perhaps speak to your Gp about counseling services in your area.

Deck

Tbh I'm sorry she blew you off, you needed support but perhaps she wasn't in a position to give it. Fwiw I would not turn aside someone that needed help if I could offer it, you don't need religion to be able to do so, it's called humanity.

Why are you still feeling angry about it? Has something triggered the memory recently?

Op was your friends name Sharon?

Hilarious cervix

You wanted her to tell you what to do and how to handle it? Why would you expect that from someone who was not a close friend? Someone who you only engaged with to find out more about her beliefs?

MakeItALarge, is that better: 'to have a chance of Resurrection '?
Very interesting BTW.

what Lynettescavo says. You need to move on