I sent my sister (overseas) presents for her, her husband and their children, as I do every Christmas and birthday. These were posted about three weeks ago, along with a separately wrapped birthday present for my sister.
I have now e-mailed twice over the past week to ask if the presents have arrived and also to wish her a happy birthday. She hasn't replied.
She has form for not replying - it took 4 e-mails over 4 months after the children's birthdays (all within 4 weeks of each other) before she replied that they had written to say thank you and they must have got lost in the post. I told her this time, in an e-mail, the postage date and asked that she let me know when they arrived. I also made it clear that it was not the thanks we were looking for, but to know that the parcels had arrived.
I know part of me wants some kind of thanks but it is not really worth having if I have to force her to reply. I also know I will be told to just stop sending stuff - which is what my husband will want. However, these are my children's only cousins and, in a way, it is building a sort of long distance relationship for them. I really love my own cousins and want that for my children.
AIBU to now text her and ask if they arrived and if she had a good birthday (it was a week ago) or should I just leave it alone, assume they got there and stop worrying.