So I'm not stopping him seeing the kids, he's having them on the 22nd, coming here for the morning on xmas day and he's having them 31st, 2nd and 3rd. He's at work between xmas and new year so me and the kids are going away to my parents like we normally do.
But he expects me to be happy about him having them and be grateful that I get some time off, this is the man who sexually assaulted me many times and made three very strong attempts to rape me before putting me through eight months of 'yes I'll leave' followed by 'No I've changed my mind' before he finally went having made me promise not to tell anyone and told me he wouldn't pay me a penny ever again if I did. I haven't worked for years because he wouldn't let me so I have a lot of rebuilding of my career to do before I could manage without any money from him so I haven't told anyone round here although my family know.
Is it unreasonable of me not to be grateful to him and really to much prefer the idea that my kids were here with me where I know they're safe?
(I am not stopping him seeing them so please don't accuse me of doing that, he is seeing them exactly when he has asked to have them.)