Don't want to drip feed so will try and explain the situation so far:
DS is 3. His dad only made contact with him in the summer. So far they have had 3 visits together = altogether totalling 5 hours or so. Distance makes anything more regular difficult.
I want to encourage a relationship and have been incredibly flexible about this.
Now they are asking to have DS for the whole day just after christmas. This is fine and I think DS will enjoy himself but, they are driving just over an hour away to spend time with exs parents and then going on to their hotel for dinner. He will then drive him home.
I have said this is fine but I have asked for addresses of where they will be.
Now I'm worried this is a bit U but I feel quite anxious about the visit. DS has never been that far from me. I don't drive so if something terrible were to happen it would take me ages to get there by train.
I know I have to get used to him having another life with his dad that I won't be a part of but I just feel like I need to know where he will be.
AIBU?