To feel like the most boring person in the world as a SAHM?

[MrsJamin]

I've met at least 7 of DH's colleagues in the past year for a meal, coffee, etc, and not once has anyone asked me any questions about me and my life. I assume this is because I am currently a SAHM.

Does this happen to anyone else or is it just me that has the most boring life in the world to people who don't have children? Or on the other hand do people not have social skills any more and are happy just to talk about themselves the whole time? It's getting me down and one of the reasons I am looking forward to working again but AIBU that it shouldn't be like this?

I have an interesting and varied professional career, earn more than DH, and none of his workmates have ever asked me what I do for a living. I find it bloody rude. Not only that, it would be useful for my line of work to make contacts in another field, but I won't push it at social gatherings unless they make the first move, IYSWIM.

I saw another post on here from a lady that said her DH was an engineer and she had the same experience. My DH is an engineer too. Have tried talking to their female partners, and they equally don't have any conversation and in fact don't work/have hobbies so its like wading through treacle trying to talk to them

Even if I didn't work, it would be nice to be asked about what hobbies I do - I do a competive sport, but no, nothing like that either. They're just bloody rude. Conversational social skills exist to put people at ease.

I did find when I had a short spell as a SAHM that it was difficult to get talking to men, eg dads at swimming lessons, as work always seemed to be the easiest topic to get started with. When I worked we talked about work, once I stopped it was difficult to get a conversation going, men generally don't chat about their children as much as women tend to and I struggled to find common ground. Now I'm back at work again it is easy once more. Once I get to know them (eg my colleagues), it is easy to chat abut anything really, news, current affairs, TV, hobbies, it really is just that work is such a useful ice breaker.

Could you just say "I'm a scientist/work in retail/hairdresser/whatever but having a break to bring up the children"

they might just be self-absorbed. there's a lot of it about.