To feel awkward that one of my husband's friends was cracking on to me?

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Just got back from Husband's Xmas do. Free bar, everyone had a few plus some...
My husband been working with the same bloke for about 15 yrs but this bloke got divorced about 4 yrs ago. Since then this bloke has been shagging anything moving really (she left him for another man). Get on well with him but don't see him that often as doesn't live local to us but husband loves him like a brother.

Anyway tonight got a bit awkward... Sat btw my husband and him at dinner and he was blatantly flirting with me and also accusing me of fancying another younger bloke at our table (I didn't but he was good looking and easy to talk to, oh and young!! Lol)
anyway night went along fine and I just kind of ignored any flirting but then got to about 11.30 and this friend, who had been on the pull all night got increasingly flirty with me, told me i looked sexy then looks me up and down and says 'I've an idea, can we just share tonight?' I pretended that i didn't know what he was talking about and was like, 'share what?!' And then turned away and cringed! Agghhhh. My husband was completely oblivious as v drunk!!
Do I just write it off as silly drunkeness and forget it ever happened? Or do I tell husband when he is sober??

Yes, tell your husband that his friend (who has been shagging anything moving) has crossed the line as he has now moved in closer to home. Tell your husband that you find his friend irritating and that he is coming across as a bit of a creep when he's drunk.

I wouldn't say anything. Everyone was very drunk by the sounds of things, and I'd be inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt if this hasn't happened before, even though he was clearly out of line and disrespectful to both you and your husband. If he tried it on again I probably would say something though.

I would say that you found the evening awkward as friend was drunk and "a bit flirty with me". That way DH is warned but you don't potentially ruin a friendship over what could be one-off drunken silliness.

I wouldn't say anything.

I suspect it's not you specifically he's after, he's probably jealous of the relationship that you and your husband have, and he hasn't found anything close in the last four years.

I am sure that if he remembers he will cringe when he's sober. He's lonely and it's Christmas.

I would tell my husaband. I wouldn't keep something like this to myself.

I'd agree with telling your husband; maybe go down the line of a laughing comment about "if I didn't know better I'd say X was trying to pull me" and laugh uproariously...

Husband warned and it's obvious that you're not interested; not telling him might be construed by X as licence to go further IYSWIM.

I do agree that he is jealous, especially if his wife left him.

Cringe. I'm not sure I would say anything on this occasion though. If he did it again I would though.

I'd just tell your husband about the flirting but laugh it off. They work together so you don't want it to get too awkward , and its not like anything happened, or was in danger of happening.

I'd tell DH but then we would both find it funny.

Just read this to DH - tell your husband. Why wouldn't you tell him about it? How do you think your husband would feel if his friend, filled with remorse apologised for his flirting and over the line behaviour to him on Monday and he realised that you haven't told him about it?

DH says you should approach it in a laughable way - haha! Do you remember how drunk sex-pest was? He was a total man whore - even tried it on with me. And you sat there and just kept drinking and nodding!! It was funny until he asked if you would share...

That way, husband knows, is warned and you've basically told him what happened. Sex-pest can deny it but from what you've written, you had a lot less to drink than your husband and his 'friend'. Although a real friend wouldn't cross that line - being drunk is a get out not an excuse.

What csi said.

I would tell him.

Alcohol is not an excuse for unacceptable behaviour.

Tell your hubby but laugh about it, if you had said yes to the sleaze he probably would have run a mile!