to think asking a child's parent if that child can have a sweet is not the crime of the century?

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'fun' day at work today (shop, pre christmas type 'fun')

I was out and about in the shop and had some sweets

I was asking the parent's if the children would like a sweet-in uniform, very obviously worked there, not some random child catcher

most people said it's fine, 1 or 2 said no thank you, no problem, merry christmas and all that

one woman had a massive go at me sayig did I realise that children could have allergies, diabetes etc and offering children that I didn't know a sweet was totally inappropriate as I was encouraging them to talk to strangers

was I doing something wrong?

and I wasn't offering the sweet and then checking it was ok, I was asking the parent first

or was she just having a bad day?

No it doesn't as I said

YANBU, and it's all the sillier because you were doing the right thing. It was perfectly acceptable for this woman just to say 'no thanks'.

Sounds like you may have had the bad luck to run into an orthorexic. Be thankful your encounter was a short one.

Yanbu. A simple no thank you would have sufficed!

Ds2 is coeliac, but he's always known he has to check with me first. He accepts a sweet (unless he knows its not ok) and keeps it until I pick him up from after school club or play date and I can say yay or nay.

YANBU, as wheresmycaffinedrip said, a simple no thank you would have sufficed.

And as for the speaking to strangers thing, what a load of tosh! 1. Child was with parent, and 2. Everyone knows kids are far more likely to be hurt by someone they know, not a stranger

or was she just having a bad day?

Not necessarily. She coule be a regular everyday loon. Plenty about. Surely you must come across them of all kinds, dealing with the public?

My DS has severe allergies, I don't throw a tantrum if someone offers him a sweet if I'm there. I just check the ingredients and we always have the epi-pen with us just in case. But, yes I do worry about adults offering him sweets if he's not with me / grandma / his teacher etc, he might eat something he shouldn't.

Sometimes I let the DC's have them, sometimes I don't.

What a ghastly embarrassment of a mother she is!

rainrainandmorerain Sounds like you may have had the bad luck to run into an orthorexic.

Wow I had never heard of orthorexic before. YY we do see that behaviour a lot these days. TBH we seem to be becoming more neurotic generally. Prolly too much time on our hands to obsess.

past companies lots of 'interesting customers'

wher I am now, the majority are lovely and the not so lovely I let wash over me