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or is m DH.....?

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recall · 15/12/2012 22:43

I am 42, and stopped smoking 18 years ago, about 2 years after my met my husband. Last year, I as experiencing a great deal of stress etc ( you know ) I have 3 dc 5, 3 and 2, I run my own business...it can get very intense.

Anyway, I bought an electric cigarette....I now use it on a daily basis.

My husband detests it, he says I look rough smoking it. If we are out, and I get it out, he gets really grumpy, and it can really spoil the moment.

I am making a determined effort not to use in front of him, but occasionally I really need a drag on it.

Should I not do something that I enjoy just because my husband disapproves?

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recall · 15/12/2012 22:44

Lots of typos - sorry

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CoolaYuleA · 15/12/2012 22:47

No you shouldn't stop doing something because your husband disapproves, but I am at a loss as to why you would deliberately re-addict yourself to nicotine after 18 years.....

ChasedByBees · 15/12/2012 22:50

Hmm, I think I'm with your DH on this (although slightly on the fence). I can see your point about not giving something up just because your DH disapproves, but you stopped smoking when you met him so he got together with a non-smoker. I'd be Hmm if DH started doing this and probably a bit embarrassed.

I'm surprised you need this after giving up 18 years ago!

akaemmafrost · 15/12/2012 22:51

Sorry I agree with him. Rightly or wrongly this would really put me off someone.

ChasedByBees · 15/12/2012 22:51

Is it actually nicotine then and not just some comfort thing? In that case I'm off the fence, YABU.

WorraLorraTurkey · 15/12/2012 22:52

He's probably concerned that you've deliberately gone out to buy something highly addictive.

Your job won't change, your kids won't change and your live won't change.

The only thing that's changed is that you're now an addict so I can see where he's coming from.

There were a million and one other coping strategies you could have chosen.

FunnysFuckingFreezing · 15/12/2012 22:53

your DH needs to take you as you are, electronic fag or not. Were you still smoking during those 18 years?

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recall · 17/12/2012 11:16

Well, I gave up 18 years ago after we had been together for 2 years, so I was a smoker when we met, and so was he. He continued to smoke for about 5 or 6 years after I had stopped, then he quit. I never touched a cig during the 18 years.

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