If I save money

[IneedAsockamnesty]

For my children, the actual money is mine and I wish to save it for them until an undisclosed time ( basicly I have yet to decide) and no tax fraud ect is happening.

Am I being unreasonable to not provide any information about this at all to there other parent (I'm a lone parent) or anybody else not bank/ hmrc related if I chose not to.

Basically I think its totally up to me and nothing to do with dad but dad feels I should keep him informed.

I would never dream of asking for info like this at all.

I don't think he has any right to know what you do with your money.

He might have a right to know if the money was actually the children's - e.g. in accounts in their names. Do you have shared parental responsibility? If you did decide to set up children's accounts, I would check if he could push to become a signatory on any such savings account... if you suspect his motives are less than altruistic, you certainly don't want him cleaning out the DC's accounts (the reason why I mention children's accounts is that even at the moment, the interest rates are much better on them).

He doesn't have a right to know, but if he's asking because he's thinking about how the two of you will fund university or driving lessons or whatever then I don't think he's doing a bad thing by asking.

I've asked my ex if he has any savings plans for the dc just because I want to know if helping them through university is going to be up to me alone or if I can expect his help.

I guess it very much depends on why your ex asked the question.

There is no chance at all that he has any interest in how they will go to uni he thinks stuff like that is for layabouts. ( he's not very sensible) its always been very clear that I will sort that out and fund it myself.

I can seriously not think of any reasonable reason why he asked I'm tempted to text him and ask but I really don't fancy engaging him in conversation, but if I don't its going to force me to keep wondering.

I bloody hate wondering why people do stuff

if he has a right to know then tell him to ask the bank you save with as they will also tell him the same as you - due to data protection they are unable to speak to him about your finances

If he wants to put money away for their uni fees then that is up to him - they may or may not go and they may or may not need money and it may or may not be there.

sock it will probably become apparent soon as people like that usually let the cat out of the bag and you find out when they wanted to know without asking.

Then it sounds like you did the right thing by not answering his question.

He probably only wanted to know for the sake of being nosey. Try and put it out of your head, even if you do ask him, it's unlikely you will get a straight and honest answer, and you may well just end up with even more 'whys?' in your head.