So a Two Year Old is 'too young' to receive a Christmas Card from his Grandparents?

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He is DC4 and the other 3 DCs all received individual Christmas cards in the post as did DH and I (a Daughter & Son-In-Law one). DC4's name has has not even been added to DH & I's card.

When I questioned my mother as why they have forgotten his existence AGAIN (same as his 1st & 2nd birthdays), she said that he's too young to get a card even though I cannot remember any Xmas that my other 3 did not get either a joint or individual card.

I should have apparently not have had him as we were not in a secure financial situation at the time I got pregnant (I had been made redundant) and therefore it seems that they can ignore him - they have seen him 4 times in 2 and a half years.

When we took him down for the weekend to visit when he was 5 weeks old as we were invited to, they decided that they had something important to do and buggered off for the whole of the 1st day we were there so we left that evening. They have forgotten both his birthdays and last Christmas they delivered the DCs presents on the 7th January (we could not travel to them) despite booking a holiday cottage for themselves and other family members an hour away from us for Christmas (we were not invited).

It is very hurtful that DC4's only set of GPs have no interest in him at all (they have virtually brought up my sisters DCs). He is an absolutely gorgeous little boy and I know it's their loss but it actually makes me want to cry!

YANBU - 2 year olds love post. Your parents sound a bit loopy. Does he get presents from them?

YANBU, that is a pitiful excuse. My DD is 18 months old and has received a card, same as last year when she was 6 months old.

this might go against the rules (i haven't read them) but .... your mother is a fucking idiot.

you post him a card. explain why to his siblings.

in fact, sack these poisonous people before they hurt you any more.
i'm still in contact with mine but the pain they cause...

further, pm me your address and i'll post cards to all your children (you'll have to tell me how many) so they can all have something arrive (or not arrive, mail being what it is), in the post. i'm posting tomorrow. my cards have teddy bears on them.

i'm in the north, my CAB check is about two years old, i'm a grandma. not a stalker.

I wrote a card to my DD last year. She was three months old. I've saved it for when she is older. As did her GP.

Your mother sounds toxic, I would keep her away from all of your DC

YANBU, DD is 22 months and was very excited to receive a card from my DPs.

only you know if it was done to be cruel to you my 2year old woul not give 2shits about a card however.

This is about alot more than a card isn't it!

It is getting to the point where he will notice that he is being ignored and you will need to make a decision about what is best for all the family. (Send all the cards back ?)

The fact that they exclude you and treat you o badly makes me wonder if you were the scapegoat as a child and now your youngest dc gets the role?

YANBU, i would stop them seeing all the DC's as it very hurtful and disgusting to just forget a child.

Also i think cards and things like that are a good way of helping a child recognise their own name.

YANBU. She's a pitiful 'D'GP. What an awful woman.

How utterly bizarre. Does she think if she ignores your ds he will just go away? Incredibly hurtful. I assume she has only seen her other grandchildren for the same amount of times as your ds so it isn't as if she has a big part in their lives. If it were me I wouldn't bother to keep up contact.

I think you need to bring it out into the open and ask them what the fuck they think they are doing. Maybe they are just being thoughtless rather than nasty. If not, or if they don't stop, then personally I'd cut them out reduce contact with them.